How would you respond to this?

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

mintxx

Senior Don Juan

Sep 15, 2009

what a fvcking crock of sh!t. this is the god damn mature man forum.

if you're studying at 2am at the age of 25 it's fvcking important. more important than some chic who wants to play her little girl game of lets see if i can get this schmuck to drop what he's doing and pay attention to me.

Her: "Come keep me company"

You: "another time if you ask nicely" or even just "no"

DJDamage's response above is spot on.

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.