"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How would you respond to a plate pushing for exclusivity?

Bokanovsky

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I got a text from a girl I've been banging for a couple of months now. She's saying that she has decided that she can only deal with an exclusive relationship and wants to know where she stands with me. I like her but not enough to be exclusive with her. I'd like to keep her as a fb. How would you respond to her?
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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TheCWord

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All good things must come to an end. Your relationship with this girl has run its course. Any attempts to try to make your dynamic one thing when she wants it to be something else will make for a lot of headaches.

You gotta get all Taoist on this one. Go with the flow of the current and all will be well. If you fight against it, you might drown.
 

plate's_empty

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TheCWord said:
All good things must come to an end. Your relationship with this girl has run its course. Any attempts to try to make your dynamic one thing when she wants it to be something else will make for a lot of headaches.

You gotta get all Taoist on this one. Go with the flow of the current and all will be well. If you fight against it, you might drown.
This^^^^

3 months is usually about the time for me. That's when, out of the blue, I'll start to hear:

"all you want me for is sex" (when half the time they're the ones giving me bootycalls)

"how come you never take me anywhere." (when I've invited them places in the past and they say: "just let me know when you're done and I'll come over")

"either we go exclusive or I'm done." (huh?)

I don't volunteer the information that I'm seeing other girs, usually they assume, but I also don't lie if asked. I am seeing other girls. I believe honesty is key here. The golden rule. It works for me, plus I have a conscience and don't like leading girls on.

If she's a good plate, and I don't want to go exclusive, I usually try to make it work, but most of the time, it doesn't. Set her free, time to find another plate.
 

Jitterbug

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You're not gonna spin that kind of plates for more than 3 months. Just set an expiry date in your head from the beginning so you can freely let her go afterwards. Just say something simple: "I like you, but I'm not ready for a relationship". Then queue up new girls.

Sure you can squeeze some more time out of her with elaborate lies but it's more headache for rewards that aren't worth the troubles since you don't like her that much.
 
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