"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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... How would you react?

European-DJ

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Hi brothers,

I am in the current situation, that I was dumped by a girls some time a go. Yesterday I texted this girl, to which she responded with a phonecall.
After some talking I said I had to go, and once agin texted her, letting her know what I though about us.

To this she answered, something in the line of "...If you really want me back, YOU have to work for it, and show me that you really want me...". Funny thing is, our relationship broke down due to her ignorant attitude, an attitude that apparently still haven't changed..

My questions to you guys is, what kind of answer should I give to such a text? An example would be great, I want to show her, in a discreet way, that I think I the opposit of her saying, and that she could continue in by herself, if she wanted me to 'work for it'.

Regards, and thanks in advance!

/European-dj
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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rhythmic

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Pshhh, I dunno. I'm tempted to say fvck that, she clearly has way too high an opinion of herself and too low and opinion of you.

If you HAD to respond, something along the lines of "I'm still talking to you, that should be enough". But it sounds like she doesn't respect you. NEXT. Work on yourself, earn her respect.
 

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I would say don't even answer her anymore find another girl and move on, she really don't deserve your time, remember its not you who should show things its her
 

European-DJ

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Thank you for the answers' guys, until now i still have not answered her.

But i would like too se some more examples, even though i do not think she deserves my attention - but would be nice with alternatives.

Regards
 

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Work for it? No no no she's got it all wrong she has to win you back if you even want her back. But this girl seems like a stuck up b1tch. I would just drop it and move on EDJ. Why do you one a girl who isn't compliant and who is a total stuck up ho3.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Text her a pic of the girl you just ****ed naked with your jizz on her face.
 

The Gambler

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The situation here is simple. She thinks SHE is the prize. Not you.

If you can't turn that around, go ahead and tie a leash to your neck and hand it to her.
 
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I'd reply back with "Why don't you go and blow your Dad's f*ckstick."
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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PrettyBoyAJ

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What's wrong with you dudes? If a girl broke up with you then charge her to the game. There is no chance your going to get her back. If you somehow do things will never be the same. The real question is why the hell are you even in contact with her?
 

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Eh....she left you. Not the other way around.
So she is the one that ought to be working for forgiveness.
Stop contacting her. She is playing games. You don't break up with someone to test them to see what they would be willing to do for you. That is not how relationships work.
 

VladPatton

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Since it has been a few days since she sent that message, throw her something that brings her up, then knocks her down:

"Hi, how are you!"
(This makes it look like you are starting to chase and kiss her aʂʂ again)

"I forgot to text you last time about what you said. Yeah, I'm gonna have to let you go, I have better things to do, sorry."
(Now you just stated your intent with a completely different approach.)

After these, just two short texts, I would never contact her again. No matter how many texts she sends back telling you to go Ƒuck yourself, you just don't give her the time of day anymore. No matter what she says.

That's what I would do. Short, discreet, and right to the point. No arguing, no cursing.

Good luck, and let us know what you ultimately did.
 
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