Noob here. Have been reading a lot on the board but I guess I am clueless at this.
There's a chic I like a lot, we've been fvck buddys in the past - my call because that was all i wanted. anyhow, we lost contact for a while last year but she sent me a happy birthday message a couple weeks ago. I thought about this girl a lot lately and realised she is definitely LTR material and want to try to move it there. When she text me i tried to call her about 10 times in a week, she never picked up - this was her phone in her house and she had no VM switched on.i then tried her cell a couple times and got VM. I left a message and she sent me a text back saying hi and she'd love to see me. So i tried to call her again a few times but she never picked up.I sent a few texts over a weekend but she didn't reply to them at all - later she said she'd lost her cell that weekend....i guess the tone of the texts started to show i was getting mad with her blanking me.. Long story short I called her and she picked up and we had a brief convo . she did say 'sounds good' when i started to say about the bedroom stuff i have planned for when I next see her etc and she giggled a bit.
I was mad after she hadn't picked up all those times so i didn't set a time to meet right then, told her i would call her back within the next week...do i make myself scarce and make her work for it ? maybe not call her back at all and wait to see if she's really interested? or make her wait for a couple weeks...just wondering how other DJ's would play this?
Did I give her power here?
Also I keep asking this girl about other guys, who she's seeing - I even left a VM saying how her new guy was getting in the way I made it sound like i was just teasing but how does that sound to her? Should I say stuff like that like I dont care if she has a new guy but saying it she may guess that I don't mean it? I don't wannt to sound insecure so I made it a joke.
I also don't know if she sees me as a potential b/friend, my goal with this chic, how can I test the waters there?
Give it to me straight guys - if I'm coming over AFC to this girl tell me what I am doing wrong and how to stop it.I really like her. The chic is about an 8, very sexy, very good lay. Any guy would be lucky to have her in his bed, IMO. I once told her that ...I'm such a jerk.
There's a chic I like a lot, we've been fvck buddys in the past - my call because that was all i wanted. anyhow, we lost contact for a while last year but she sent me a happy birthday message a couple weeks ago. I thought about this girl a lot lately and realised she is definitely LTR material and want to try to move it there. When she text me i tried to call her about 10 times in a week, she never picked up - this was her phone in her house and she had no VM switched on.i then tried her cell a couple times and got VM. I left a message and she sent me a text back saying hi and she'd love to see me. So i tried to call her again a few times but she never picked up.I sent a few texts over a weekend but she didn't reply to them at all - later she said she'd lost her cell that weekend....i guess the tone of the texts started to show i was getting mad with her blanking me.. Long story short I called her and she picked up and we had a brief convo . she did say 'sounds good' when i started to say about the bedroom stuff i have planned for when I next see her etc and she giggled a bit.
I was mad after she hadn't picked up all those times so i didn't set a time to meet right then, told her i would call her back within the next week...do i make myself scarce and make her work for it ? maybe not call her back at all and wait to see if she's really interested? or make her wait for a couple weeks...just wondering how other DJ's would play this?
Did I give her power here?
Also I keep asking this girl about other guys, who she's seeing - I even left a VM saying how her new guy was getting in the way I made it sound like i was just teasing but how does that sound to her? Should I say stuff like that like I dont care if she has a new guy but saying it she may guess that I don't mean it? I don't wannt to sound insecure so I made it a joke.
I also don't know if she sees me as a potential b/friend, my goal with this chic, how can I test the waters there?
Give it to me straight guys - if I'm coming over AFC to this girl tell me what I am doing wrong and how to stop it.I really like her. The chic is about an 8, very sexy, very good lay. Any guy would be lucky to have her in his bed, IMO. I once told her that ...I'm such a jerk.