this situation. Was dating a girl for a short period of time in Chicago and it didn't work out. I didn't call her for the last three weeks to month. I went to a bar that I had met her in a month earlier the night before Valentines day and there she was at the bar almost like waiting for me like we had plans to meet there. She said she had an intuition that I would show up there. Its not like she was texting or calling me during that time as well. What would you make of this scenario because it was kind of shocking of all people to be in this bar on a Monday night. Any advice or opinions would be helpful.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
how would you perceive
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
backseatjuan
Banned
They used to men begging and chasing after things don't work out. You not doing it, raises your value. Perhaps you was the man with highest value that night in that bar. It's impossible to say if she wanted to sex you or toy with you and leave you again.
Do you know why things didn't work out?
If it's something you know that wouldn't work out even now, then don't get desperate and chase her again.
Do you know why things didn't work out?
If it's something you know that wouldn't work out even now, then don't get desperate and chase her again.
They used to men begging and chasing after things don't work out. You not doing it, raises your value. Perhaps you was the man with highest value that night in that bar. It's impossible to say if she wanted to sex you or toy with you and leave you again.
Do you know why things didn't work out?
the bar was empty and I think I screwed up by not calling her for almost a week after initial sex. Still I find it weird she was in the empty bar on a Monday night before Valentines with her whole intuition excuse.
Do you know why things didn't work out?
the bar was empty and I think I screwed up by not calling her for almost a week after initial sex. Still I find it weird she was in the empty bar on a Monday night before Valentines with her whole intuition excuse.
backseatjuan
Banned
She had your phone right?
She could have called you or send you an SMS.
How is it your fault?
She could have called you or send you an SMS.
How is it your fault?
She had your phone right?
She could have called you or send you an SMS.
How is it your fault?
Chick was always too nervous to call me as I don't receive texts and the VM I got from her early on sounded like a nervous school girl. Not anyones fault just surprised she showed up at that empty bar. Totally against what I thought she was about. Women are illiogical sometimes and heres one example.
She could have called you or send you an SMS.
How is it your fault?
Chick was always too nervous to call me as I don't receive texts and the VM I got from her early on sounded like a nervous school girl. Not anyones fault just surprised she showed up at that empty bar. Totally against what I thought she was about. Women are illiogical sometimes and heres one example.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.