"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How would you have handled this?

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Hey, DJ's.

The other day I ran into a woman I had been out with once, but bailed out on a second date. I gave her the benefit of the doubt and called to reschedule, which she did, but then she bailed on that one too. I did not make plans to reschedule -- figure that's twice, if she wants to see me, she can call me.

Of course, she smiles, starts talking to me, and says, "You don't call me anymore."

I responded with, "That's because it's incovenient."

HB: "Why is it inconvenient?"
Me: "Because it's a waste of my time."

Now, that might seem pretty blunt, but that's honestly how I feel -- don't stand there and complain to me about me not calling you when I do and you cancel twice in a row, then never call back.

She looked crushed. I'm not sure if this is her M.O. and she sees how long she can get away with it or what. I just shook my head and walked away.

Polite enough? How would you gents have handled it?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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hilarious come back bro....

you did the right thing. :up: DON'T TAKE HER BACK
 
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nicely put, but i think she was just trying to make small talk...

i hate it when people tell me "you dont call anymore", i hear that quite a lot actually and every time it pisses me off.. for the simple reason is that they can call too!
 
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The way i see it, you have two options, you can either give up and have 0 chance, or plow through ala gunwitch and keep trying until she flat out rejects you. I would have said "Hey, I thought I left you a message, I was waiting for you to call me" and play it off like I didn't care (which I honestly don't), and then tell her "You know, you can take me out for dinner to make it up to me" (once again said playfully).

Odds are she'll flake out again, but you have better chances than just giving up. Don't go out of your way to see again if she flakes, but just be friendly yet distant.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Serialized3 said:
Odds are she'll flake out again, but you have better chances than just giving up. Don't go out of your way to see again if she flakes, but just be friendly yet distant.
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Why would you even want a chance with somebody that already played you? This is what you dont do. You can't let hoes keep walking over you and give them a second and third chance to do it again.
 
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