How would you handle this

[captain55]

So I've been with this chick for about a year now. the other day im walking out the door to my house when my girlfriends sister says "hey guess what Jason from New York called me" as I closed the door and went to work my girlfriends says "do not tell my boyfriend (me) about New York I don't want him knowing about that"

I overheard it as I walked down the stairs. What I later found out from my girlfriends sister was my gf banged a male stripper right next to her while she was sleeping.

Now I don't care about a girls past, it was before she met me, but it's pretty disturbing to me that my gf banged some dude next to her sister right in front of her while she was sleeping. What also bothers me is that there are secrets going around my mother****ing house. anyways now my gf hates her sister because she "threw her under the bus" and told the truth to me.

I'm not one to dwell on a girls past fellas...a one night stand is no big deal we've all had them but I feel like this is a bit disgusting . I don't like the idea of knowing my chick is trying to keep anything from me, when I would of never asked about her past anyway. Would you be able to get past something like this?

 

[TheProspect]

It's up to you.

If it's trivial and you feel you'll get over it, make a decision based on that.

If it fvcks with your head and negatively affects how you interact with your gf, make a decision based on that.

Just remember that nearly every girl you meet has very likely done something pretty slvtty in her past that would bother you. Ignorance is bliss, but you and only you decide what you're okay with.

 

[RangerMIke]

Sounds like you can't get past this so dump her.

As for me, I wouldn't care, all women are freaks, I always expect all the chicks I date have done crazier sh!t than this.

 

[old_skoolr]

How long before you met did it happen OP?

If its bothering you about it, just tell her.

Tbf, the reason your gf didnt want you to know is that shes embarrassed herself about it, so she was most likely drunk.

 

[devilkingx2]

So I've been with this chick for about a year now. the other day im walking out the door to my house when my girlfriends sister says "hey guess what Jason from New York called me" as I closed the door and went to work my girlfriends says "do not tell my boyfriend (me) about New York I don't want him knowing about that"

I overheard it as I walked down the stairs. What I later found out from my girlfriends sister was my gf banged a male stripper right next to her while she was sleeping.

Now I don't care about a girls past, it was before she met me, but it's pretty disturbing to me that my gf banged some dude next to her sister right in front of her while she was sleeping. What also bothers me is that there are secrets going around my mother****ing house. anyways now my gf hates her sister because she "threw her under the bus" and told the truth to me.

I'm not one to dwell on a girls past fellas...a one night stand is no big deal we've all had them but I feel like this is a bit disgusting . I don't like the idea of knowing my chick is trying to keep anything from me, when I would of never asked about her past anyway. Would you be able to get past something like this?

an alpha corrupts women into doing things they'd never even dream of for his pleasure

a beta recoils in horror when he finds out that a grown woman isn't a perfect little innocent angel with a halo

which one are you going to be? and more worrisome, which one does she think you are considering that she didn't want you to know?

read this story, this reminds me of you: https://therationalmale.com/2013/12/03/saving-the-best/

anyway, the proper reaction to this should be excitement that this is the kind of fun you could be having with your gf, then dumping her if she refuses (since now you know she's a freak she has no excuses lol)

 

[JohnChops]

If it was before she met you, **** it, pretend you're a male stripper and have her shower you in 20s, while you rail her brains out.

 

[Von]

Leave the past behind... doesn't matter.

Now you know your gf might be up for a 3somes with her sister....

The past is the past.

Talk to her about it and put it under the rug... if you can't... than she was not for you.

Personnally, that's why I never ask about the past.... avoid comparison and I am strong enough to know the present matters (and the futur)...

The important part is 1) To know she doesnt have red flags for you 2) You can put her past in the closet never to be opened.

Only way you'll survive your LTR

 

[dude99]

So I've been with this chick for about a year now. the other day im walking out the door to my house when my girlfriends sister says "hey guess what Jason from New York called me" as I closed the door and went to work my girlfriends says "do not tell my boyfriend (me) about New York I don't want him knowing about that"

I overheard it as I walked down the stairs. What I later found out from my girlfriends sister was my gf banged a male stripper right next to her while she was sleeping.

Now I don't care about a girls past, it was before she met me, but it's pretty disturbing to me that my gf banged some dude next to her sister right in front of her while she was sleeping. What also bothers me is that there are secrets going around my mother****ing house. anyways now my gf hates her sister because she "threw her under the bus" and told the truth to me.

I'm not one to dwell on a girls past fellas...a one night stand is no big deal we've all had them but I feel like this is a bit disgusting . I don't like the idea of knowing my chick is trying to keep anything from me, when I would of never asked about her past anyway. Would you be able to get past something like this?

When you see her tonight act like nothing is going on and then when things are quiet look at her and say

"So tell we about New York!"

Record reaction. Should be good comedy

 

[devilkingx2]

I've tried stuff like this...I dunno when they see you a certain way(boyfriend provider role) it can be hard for them to de-compartmentalize things but to their credit, some will.

The ones that won't were just trying to screw you over anyway, you don't need them

 

[guru1000]

Definitely a LTR deal-breaker for me.

Captain, you created two threads about this girl and received much advice. Why don't you show some respect and love to your brothers here by sharing with us any red flags you had noticed prior to this incident?

 

[FwoGiZ]

You are obviously a beta if this bothers you in this way. You could be a controlling Alpha chump and be all annoyed and pissy OR a real Alpha male and get a 3some with her and her sister.

As long as you keep thinking girls are innocent angels, you will keep getting deception.

When I meet a girl with such a story that she is ashamed of, I make her feel good about it instead and tell her that she's actually a rarer kind, the fun kind and that if she was truly attracted to a gay stripper dude well then so be it, it's quite natural.

When you bring up the fact that you think her friend is smoking hot and you wish you had a 3some with both of them, it goes quite more smoothly.

Btw, I don't believe in eternal relationships, but I do believe in long term quality relationships. Oh and I'm a slut.

 

[devilkingx2]

True, but you could argue so were the ones that withheld the info to begin with haha

I Like your perspective though. The older I get the more I see things that way, but not totally yet.

Yeah, if they withhold the info or refuse to give you the same treatment she used to give other guys then she's a terrible girl and you should drop her

imo it's better to have a slut who is open to absolutely everything, that way the sex is awesome. a chick who was a slut until 2 seconds before she met you but is now suddenly a princess is the worst kind of trash

 

[FwoGiZ]

It's not about sending a fake image at all.... everyone is human and done things they regret or simply don't want the whole world to know cause you know what? people judges....

Here's how I see it... why would I want to know something that will obviously upset me? Who gives a **** about the PAST. Maybe it made her realize she isn't into that kinda ****? Who knows? Who cares? The important is what's going on NOW and what's gonna happen tomorrow... not what's gonna happen in a year or what happened a year ago.