How would you handle this?

[asid76]

So...there I am at the bar. I walk in and see my brother. I decide I am going to spend time with him and not worry about picking up, but I am aware of a few of my female co-workers who are at the club; I acknowledged them and stayed with my brother, just chatting away. I haven't talked to him in about a month so I felt like seeing how things are going in his life etc. We don't talk as much anymore...

Anyhow, that being said, I am standing where these ladies I work with can see me and this chick walks up to me. Totally slutty-looking, amazingly gorgeous - asian, great body, big tata's, red low-cut dress, very kissable lips - but very drunk. And she starts to hit on me so I start to flirt a little, I negged her, asked some leading questions etc., she started kino'ing me grabbing my waist and pulling me close to her which was awesome, but when I looked over my shoulders at my co-workers they were ALL watching. It made me feel sooo awkward...I ended up turning my back on the slutty girl and continued to talk with my brother until she left.

This leads to my question...How would YOU handle this?

I mean, I don't want my co-workers to see me as someone who has to go for drunken sluts at the nightclub, I think that would lower my value in their eyes would it not? Or perhaps they were thinking "wow this beautiful girl is hitting on asid76 maybe she is seeing something in him we are not..." I don't know. I am still not sure if I am happy about not f**king that hot drunk girl. I don't get girls hitting on ME alot so I was a little overwhelmed I guess...I work with a TON of hotties and I don't want them getting the wrong idea about me, so I did what I did and ended the conversation with the girl.

Looking for anyones thoughts on the situation...

 

[window]

You've changed your actions for the approval of your female coworkers and you weren't even at work. The result...you're typing a letter on sosuave. Live and learn I suppose.

 

[Tazman]

Not only was that good for social proof, but who knows, you could've really enjoyed her. I say this was a loss for you because you cared too much about what other people were thinking. Sure she was drunk, but women are women, your co-workers were looking at another woman hit on you and it gained their interest.

I guarantee all the women checking you out have been that drunk and will probably be that drunk again at some point.

 

[STR8UP]

You know how I know you're gay?

Seriously.....who the F cares what everyone thinks? Jeesus. Do what you want and don't worry about it.

 

[jady]

You generated interest for any chicks at the bar (be sure and return soon) and at the same time upped your perceived value to your female co workers. Sure you could have probably closed her if you wanted but you still handled it pretty well.

 

[jophil28]

This leads to my question...How would YOU handle this?

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I would do exactly nothing more. You are fine. The way that you acted said it all.
You were polite but remained outside her grasping paws. You did not leave with her in front of your co-workers and you returned your attention to talk to your brother. All good.
I would guess that the other's opinion of you (if it matters to you ) would have been raised considerably. A quality guy.

NO problems in that short movie.

IF one of your co-workers talks about the incident at the office , just give him/her a wry grin and shrug say " It happens."

 

[STR8UP]

I agree with this. If you wanted to have sex with the Asian girl, you should have. Instead by worrying about what your co-workers thought and by seeking their approval, you lost.

Another side to this is COULD he have had sex with her.....

A friend of mine called me up tonight. He was out with several women who were already a few drinks in, and he puts one of them on the phone (whom I have never met). She's like "Come out with us....my favorite thing in the world is giving bl0wjobs!"

I did end up meeting them out, and she was up on my sh!t for awhile, but she was obviously intoxicated so I held back.

Maybe I could have fukked her...quite possibly....I think she did want some d!ck, but the point is, drunk women talk a lot of sh!t. And I didn't want to risk the possibility of trouble getting involved with a women who has had one too many.

You never know. But the last thing on my mind would be what my co-workers think. But then again, I'm the boss so who cares, haha