"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How would I know if this guy is shy or just not interested?

shybunny

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When I wave and say hello to him, he smiles, waves back and says hello. He'll continue walking but he'll glance back a few times.

When I approach him to talk to him, he's always talks back.

He's told me he's passive.

He's agreed to go work on a school assignment together.


The thing I don't understand is, he never initiates conversations.
He never initiates the greetings.
He'll see me in the hallways and pretend he didn't see me, until I say hello, than I "magically appear" and he starts smiling and what not.


(if it matters, I'm 23, going to school for architecture (2 year bachelor's), and he's going to school for architecture (1st year master's), age unknown.)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Deadly_Ripped

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If you're not a passive person, then what's the big deal? Invite him to do something outside of school!

I'm not hating on people looking for dating advice, but this is usually thought of as a men's forum. I'm surprised that you haven't found something similar to this for women out there. The advice you get on here might be a pretty mixed bag of misogynistic tendencies, a desire to manipulate, and honest advice... usually all 3 mixed together as is the case in my post.
 

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OP, when you think of the two of us together, and you find yourself really getting interested in making a connection, and you feel yourself want to open up to me as you think of all the hot things the two of us could do together, just realize that none of those naughty things you're thinking about would be BELOW ME RIGHT NOW;)
 
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