How would I go about

[slitherjef]

Okay, so at work I have gotten into saying "hi" and "hows it going" to chicks who happen to stray close enough for me to interact with them... on a "Professional level" that is. So I was wondering, is there a way I could turn a customer/employee interaction into something more? Say like perhaps a number out of the interaction?

I know I can be light and funny, Im pretty good at making people laugh so thats not a problem. The problem I have is crossing that employee/customer line. So, how would I go about crossing that line with out looking desperate for trying to get a number from a customer? What visual cue or what would I need to listen for to know that a chick who I was talking to wants me to cross that employee/customer line to a personal line?

An example would be great you guys!

 

[Mavrick]

Strike up a conversation. Take it further than just hello. Talk about her interests and commonalities. Once you have to go your separate ways, tell her you'd like to continue the conversation again and nonchalantly get her number. Now, if it's a woman you see often, just flirt with her when you see her each time. Do it confidently and unapologetically. Make it as normal as the conversation. If you get nervous when you flirt, then you'll just come off creepy.

I work with a guy that's 45, short, fat, and bald. He can talk to any woman. If he wasn't married, he could probably get laid all he wants. Women come to his desk all the time. They bring him donuts and all kinds of goodies.

Learn the art of conversation, and learn how to make a woman comfortable talking to you. There is so much information out there to help you, but you have to be willing to actually take the time to read it instead of seeking quick answers on here.

 

[jcap]

are you a mcdonalds employee? if you are, unless she's 14 , she'll think of you as a loser


women look at status when choosing men , you working at a shmuck job isn't going to tell her that you'll be supporting her 8+ looks ass when she can get any guy with $$$ anytime.

thats the biggest reason why your customer/employee relationship never result in a date.

you are low value ( in status ) in her eyes unless you much better looking then her.

 

[djmac]

I'm just guessing you never dated anyone you had to work with before. Be careful because, you are going to have to see her everytime you go to work.

1.This means that if the dating goes well and you 2 eventually move in together, you will see her at work and at home and your just going to get sick of her.

2.If things don't go well, she can bring your value down- to all the other girls at work. Girls love to gossip.

If your not concerned about either of those scenarios, then keep things light and humorous and bring them into your frame of mind.

 

[slitherjef]

are you a mcdonalds employee? if you are, unless she's 14 , she'll think of you as a loser

WTF!? No. I do not work at McDonalds and hit on 14 year olds. And those women you say who are attracted to status who will not date me because they think I have a $hitty job and I would not be able to support their 8+ asses are GOLD DIGGERS!!! I work to support myself, NOT THEM!



And djmac, I am trying to figure out what you are talking about... you are talking about me dating co-workers, my post was about me (an employee) dating a CUSTOMER. I have attempted to date a co-worker and managed to date one but things got awkward and did not work out. So dating a co-worker is something I would like to advoid.

If I can get a date while I am on the job, then good for me. If not, I don't really care

Mavrick,
Thanks for the good post!

 

[James45]

Take the conversation out of the 'employee - customer' context and reframe it into the customer context, which is ultimately 'normal' everyday context i.e. when you're not working and just being sociable

so, something like:

you: (while taking her order or collecting money, whatever) oh, haha, I'm not in the best state today haha - me and my buddies had an amazing night yesturday, lets just say it involved (hmn, thinking to yourself and smiling)big playboy style pink -girls shoes, red lipstick and lots of laughter hahah.


"me and my buddies had an amazing night yesturday"

Few things to notice here, you're taking a subject that is outside of your work and therefore in relation to the girl (since she is in that 'outside work' context)


"lets just say it involved (hmn, thinking to yourself and smiling) big, playboy style, pink girls shoes, red lipstick and lots of laughter hahah"

Then some mumbo-jumbo details to lend the event more credence and making it interesting. The three things I picked would, in my opinion, evoke interest from the girl and get her to ask something like, "playboy styles shoes?!" basically a verbal peacock for her to latch onto.

Chose 'pink' due to connotations to femininity, red lipstick to evoke images of passion, desire and sex and of course 'laughter' to let her know you're a fun and social guy.

this gives her opportunities to ask you questions and from there you can take it further, get a good giggle out of her, and at that high point, close the deal:

you: hahaa, you seem like fun, i'll let you come along to one of our adventures haha, here (handing over pen and paper), put your number on there

done!