"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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There's lots of advice saying to not put women on a pedestal and they'll be turned on by your lack of interest, thinking "if he can walk away from *me* then he must be the perfect catch!".

But isn't that what an AFC does, act disinterested? The only difference is the mindset: the DJ acts disinterested because he knows she has to work for *him*, but the AFC acts disinterested because he knows he'd never get her. I just need some clarification.. how would a woman tell the difference between these two mindsets if a guy ignores her?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I've been reading stuff on this board for a while. I came to that exact conclusion. I was confused so I decided to do whatever I want, depending on the circumstance and how I feel.
 
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First of all, nothing said here should be taken as gospel. Forget about finding any specific guidelines on how to be the perfect Don Juan. There's contradictory advice because people have different personalities. Some people are more direct with their interest than others. There's more than one way to go about being successful with women.

Not putting a woman on a pedestal simply means that you see her for what she is worth and nothing more. It means not accepting bad behavior from her that you wouldn't accept from anyone else. It means not changing your life to suit her. Believe me you can let a woman know you want to F her brains out without putting her on a pedestal. Forget about "acting disinterested" if that doesn't come natural to you.
 
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Colin O'Brien said:
There's lots of advice saying to not put women on a pedestal and they'll be turned on by your lack of interest, thinking "if he can walk away from *me* then he must be the perfect catch!".

But isn't that what an AFC does, act disinterested? The only difference is the mindset: the DJ acts disinterested because he knows she has to work for *him*, but the AFC acts disinterested because he knows he'd never get her. I just need some clarification.. how would a woman tell the difference between these two mindsets if a guy ignores her?
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The AFC would have to be a great actor and correct me if i'm wrong but DJ's don't act.
 
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the AFC has 100 other nervous ticks with him
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Mystery, in his attempt to sound scientific, looked at operant conditioning.

Basically, operant conditioning states that behavior that is increased or decreased depending on reward or punishment. He rewards women for good behavior and punishes them for bad behavior. He then renamed it & claimed it as some kind of scientific breakthrough. lol.

If you want tons of details on operant conditioning, lookup B.F. Skinner. So Mystery would turn his back to show disinterest and not reward her for bad behavior that he wants to decrease.

To tell you the truth, there are some times I have used these kind of techniques with great effect but most of the time I find it's better just to pick the damn girl up and stop trying to be a friggin scientist.

Let me give a synopsis of a time that it worked and another time I didn't need any of this crap.


Hot Chica @ a high end Peruvian Disco:
I opened her and her friend. The hot one seemed pretty into things, so I only made enough chatter with the friend to keep her from feeling isolated. The hot one wanted me to buy her a drink. I refused, saying I would only do it if she could beat me at thumb wrestling. I was going to cheat to win, but this girl must thumb wrestle for a living or somehting. All 105lbs of her went midevil on me. So I did buy her a drink and she got the next round for me. At one point she became a little snide, so then I'd bust her balls and she'd laugh and go back to normal. Then she kind of looked around the room, so I opened another girl. She couldnt hear me open the other and thought the girl was after me. I then started playing off the drama and within a few seconds she confronted the other girl. They had a little drama, and the other girl said "you have him" and walked off. After a short time she went to the bathroom. Instead of waiting, I opened some other girls. One set went downhill fast, it was just kind of weird, so I opened a solo set. The girl turned out to be a hooker, so I left and went back and found the hot girl and her friend right where they had been before. She said she was sad I wasnt there and thought I left with the jealousy plotline girl. Her friend was leaving but she stayed to dance with me. After 2 dances I asked her if she wanted to go get a bite. I paid for her coat check and we went and ate. Then we went to a cheap hotel where I shagged her. I had to go, so I left after she fell asleep. We were supposed to hookup the next night but I had to go to another city so I couldnt make it.

Chick on line:

I just told her I wanted to come over. She had lost a lot of weight at some point, I actually told her I didnt like overweight women. She asked if I was only going over to hookup and I said I had an injury so we couldnt. Then I went out there and banged her for almost 2 hours. No techniques. Lol.
 
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