"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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how would a true dj handle this $hit

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Danger said:
I have fvked lots and lots of girls. If a girl gets b1tchy, I give her $hit. Never kept me from doing all of the fvking I wanted.
If by giving her $hit you mean making fun of her then yes.

If you mean getting mad and yelling at her for being *****y then no. Most women will call you out for being beta. Which you would be in that case.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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FairShake said:
If you mean getting mad and yelling at her for being *****y then no. Most women will call you out for being beta. Which you would be in that case.
The act itself has no relevance. The intent behind the act is paramount. If one carries a scarcity mentality and effects a diatribe to a woman, that's beta. Contrariwise, one with an "abundance" mentality can pretty much get away with any act--including a diatribe--without surrendering the frame. When there is a bonafide mental exit due to tangible (real) or intangible (realized) options, beta falls flat on its face.
 

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how would a true dj handle this $hit

Being a b!tch and snapping out in anger is an act of passion. And passionate people are good at fvcking. Show me a screaming b!tch, and I'll see a screaming orgasm.
 

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jc_80 said:
I was reading over some tips on this site about $hit tests and remembered a time when a gf was giving me a ride to work when my car was in the shop. we were waiting to pick up her car pool buddy and she was not in a good mood stressing about work. I was tapping my fingers on her seat. she said in a *****y tone, you can tap on your own seat if you want and glared at me. this one really stumped me.too I'm a little head strong and not going to say what I did.
but how would you have handled this?
remember you need to get to work.
Just curious. I thought it would make for good conversation here. we get the big $hit tests and know how to handle them, just gotta be strong. but these little ones aren't talked about much. sometimes women are just moody as hell and they mess up once they get comfortable with you and you gotta handle it right.
A tad difficult, but I would have been light and funny about it and said something to ease her tension. Now you might say that "anything" out of your mouth would have added to the stress, but silence is awkward, power-shifting may occur, and it also depends on the choice of words and how you directed her mind away from the stress. I usually make situations like this lighter with redirection.
 

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The OP illustrates the onset of sh*tty/disrespectful behavior. Thereafter, should OP fail to OVERTLY inform his plate of HIS rules of engagement, this type of behavior will merge into the existing "rules" of play by default, only to aggrandize in severity, eventually compromising the frame.

Motive: The plate unconsciously tests her subject to observe of what type of substance OP is made.

Prescription: Apprise plate that outbursts are unwarranted and not acceptable. Should another outburst occur, OP must walk away.

DJs don't accept sh*tty behavior; they live by their rules of engagement, not others'. As rules are individualized, and thus vary, overt disclosure of boundaries should be implemented in all the disparate types of relations: friendship, plate, exclusivity, or marriage.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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