"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

how would a dj act?

OamImrsNemo

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 19, 2009
Messages
171
Reaction score
2
Location
Cali
So my gf of r4 months is trying to play games... last three days she as tried to use me as plan b wed well we can hang out if my sis can't....well her sister bailed then she called me I was like sorry I'm busy now gotta go bye...thur she called me same thing o hey what you up to nuthin wamma do something no me and my sister are hanging out but if it doesn't work ill call you....she calls me later of course it didn t work out I was like sorry busy again..now fri we were supposed to party and now today she like I'm not sure if I'm gonna make it I was like uuuh why well I have to work tom morn...uuuuh so when hbas that stopped you before...well I might go party with my friends sat....well she gonna go to a party who her ex might be at which I've made clear I'm not okay with bailing on me tonight..and its been hard to hang out lately with her homework getting in the way and I wanna do something sat other than party its a night she won't have homework and we can actually do something so I'm kinda pist after all this **** should I talk to her and just say hey this is what I think an this is bull****....or ignore her when she calls to come to the party and call her sat be like oh you said you wernt interested...how should I handle this...sorry I'm doing this over my phone any help soon would be greatly appreciated
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

WC2

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 29, 2006
Messages
1,700
Reaction score
69
Location
New York City
Clearly you're attached and needy for her and you're just denying it to yourself.

Remember, DON'T play games with women. They've been playing games since they were in diapers.. it is not our job as men to play games. Our job as men is to be men who can satisfy women, but aren't attached to them.

Your sketchy behavior is doing nothing but giving her an excuse to start moving on to someone else. By you acting sketchy, she's just got another excuse to drop you and f*ck someone else without her looking bad.

STOP with the childish behavior and start doing WHAT you want. Tell her how it is straight up.. if she wants to see you, she needs to make some sacrifices. If not, then there's no sense in a relationship. And don't complain. Just tell her like it is. A man always LEADS.. he doesn't sit and complain, waiting for the woman to make a move. He leads and tells her what's up.
 

OamImrsNemo

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 19, 2009
Messages
171
Reaction score
2
Location
Cali
Clearly you're attached and needy for her and you're just denying it to yourself.
fvck...Your right I really didn't even notice...after all this work I was so confident about my game haha... How do you keep yourself from getting attatched in a ltr? I know about spinning plates but is that okay when in a ltr?

You also say dont play games...so are you saying I should have gone and hung out with her even though she tried to make me plan B?


Thanks!
 

todays_news

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 10, 2010
Messages
152
Reaction score
4
the tit for tat thats going on, in regards to seeing one another is very, very see-through. Yeah she's playing games, so simply dont ask her out anymore. And hang out with your friends for a change, absence makes the heart grow fonder. To be honest, it sounds like she's losing interest which is again why you shouldnt be making yourself too available.

Four months is also the point where peoples initial infactuation with one another starts to reduce aswell. As its not like they're new, but its not quite a LTR either. Only my thoughts though.

Clearly you're attached and needy for her and you're just denying it to yourself.
is a very good point. it sounds like you're centering her in the middle of your life. is she doing the same...?
 
Top