"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How/when best to contact this girl.

Rhizzle

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Thanks everyone. I'm about to call this chick in a few minutes and try to set something up for after thanksgiving.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Rhizzle

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Ok, so I called the chick.

I wont lie, my dumb ass got a little nervous and at one point, I asked the same question twice. Hope I didn't blow it. I asked what she was up to, and a couple minutes later, I asked again.

So, basically, the whole talk was all of about 5 minutes. She was hanging out with some friends, and didn't know my number, so I'm surprised she answered. She didn't know my number, but as soon as I told her my first name, she knew who it was.

Anyway, so basically, I asked if she was gonna be back in town friday, and she said no, that she was working wed, and was gone till Sunday to her families house. Then added that she was working all day Sunday.

So, I then said, "Well, would you be up for checking out the zoo lights next week when you're back in town?"

Well, she said "yea, that sounds like fun" (and sounded excited), and said, "call me next week so we can plan it."

So, I said sure, I'll give ya a ring this weekend.

(I know, you're supposed to solidify plans, but I messed up. I'm on a learning curve here.)

I figure, I'll call her monday, so it doesn't look like I'm calling on the day I said I'd call (the weekend). But yet not waiting till into the week, so its too late to plan it.

In my opinion overall, I think it is a good sign. Time will tell.

Then she thanked me for calling, This "thanking" part didn't flow very well, sounded odd. Maybe she was a little nervous since I'm an older guy.

Thoughts?
 

iqqi

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Its good you didn't solidify anything. That would have seemed pushy, from what I get from what you wrote.

Must contemplate when you should call again.

Part of me thinks you should put her on the back burner for her IL not being high enough seeming... but I am ruthless in this time of my life.

So maybe Monday or Tuesday.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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I don't get it. It's a holiday weekend, one where families spend time together, FOR THE WEEKEND!! So now instead of having a date set in stone for some time next week, you are in limbo waiting until next week just to call her to ask if you can get together. Sometimes we are our own worse enemies.
 
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