jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
For those who are, or have been, in one or more LTRs, you've probably gotten over this.
It's not that you want to "manipulate" the situation, but rather that you want to persuade it to move in a reasonable direction.
I'm sure many of you have been here.
To put it briefly, let me give you a simple example to help you understand:
Sometimes the woman will come to you with requests, like "Hey, I saw that new closet, we really need it, it's bigger and more spacious, even nicer, blah blah blah." Now, this may or may not be necessary (often it's never necessary), and so you want to make her understand that there's no need for this purchase, but you still want to validate her emotion in telling you this thing and how she feels.
Usually, my standard is to validate it by amplifying it.
So if she said something like that to me, I'd reply, "You're absolutely right! YES! We absolutely need it! How about buying another one to put in the garage for my stuff? That would be really cool, don't you think?"
After validating her in this way, I'd now like to make her understand that we objectively don't need this and that we really need to reconsider her request.
I'd be interested to know how you do it, leaving her with the satisfaction of being validated, but also the satisfaction of having found a man who doesn't accept all her requests, but who thinks about them and makes her think about them.
Ultimately, she's looking for someone she feels safe with to think about this thing she has in mind, and someone who can advise her.
She seeks for a man who says NO in a way she feel is right to her.
Also, this allow us to have this ability with other women, or our friends or family too
Replace new "closet" with "travel," "kids," "new car," "etc."
It's not that you want to "manipulate" the situation, but rather that you want to persuade it to move in a reasonable direction.
I'm sure many of you have been here.
To put it briefly, let me give you a simple example to help you understand:
Sometimes the woman will come to you with requests, like "Hey, I saw that new closet, we really need it, it's bigger and more spacious, even nicer, blah blah blah." Now, this may or may not be necessary (often it's never necessary), and so you want to make her understand that there's no need for this purchase, but you still want to validate her emotion in telling you this thing and how she feels.
Usually, my standard is to validate it by amplifying it.
So if she said something like that to me, I'd reply, "You're absolutely right! YES! We absolutely need it! How about buying another one to put in the garage for my stuff? That would be really cool, don't you think?"
After validating her in this way, I'd now like to make her understand that we objectively don't need this and that we really need to reconsider her request.
I'd be interested to know how you do it, leaving her with the satisfaction of being validated, but also the satisfaction of having found a man who doesn't accept all her requests, but who thinks about them and makes her think about them.
Ultimately, she's looking for someone she feels safe with to think about this thing she has in mind, and someone who can advise her.
She seeks for a man who says NO in a way she feel is right to her.
Also, this allow us to have this ability with other women, or our friends or family too
Replace new "closet" with "travel," "kids," "new car," "etc."
