"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How to turn around 1 negative situation:

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Okay we have all been through it at some time (well maybe not all), and this is usually the point where most guys "give up all hope"... when the girl starts "messing with your head."

THIS IS NOT THE END OF THE LINE

But it could be if you seem affected by it, or similar. If she is very sure of herself, there is one major thing that will really make her stop in her tracks.

When she makes some wise-ass crack (EDIT) When I say this I don't mean blatantly taking the piss, just as in pretending they like you when they don't... you counter it by downright rejectin' her. If she is one of the girls who think they are deadly fit (and usually are), then they will think "hey wait a minute what is going on here?"

And if they carry on with the cracks, you carry on with the rejection... and after a while she should start acting differently (it will happen gradually) until she is all over you seeing as you are pretty much the "guy she can't have." (A challenge see?)
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Bad advice. Best thing to do is give her some of her own medicine. That's when it becomes fun.
 

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The Shocker said:
Bad advice. Best thing to do is give her some of her own medicine. That's when it becomes fun.
Yeah,

Don't ignore her, or reject her, make her feel like an idiot for making a wise crack.

Reframe the sh!t test.

Her: So do you always go around picking up chicks? Or only the ones you know you can't have? (Self Point)

Me: So, do you always like to act tough? Or only around guys you are helplessly attracted to?

After the reframe, you can ignore them for a little while. Subtly though, like close off body language, not get up and leave.
 

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Yer I like that one actually that is better.

p.s. when I said wise-crack I didn't mean like blatantly taking the piss, just when they pretend to like you when they don't.
 

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wow thats pretty good.. I'd never have thought of one like that, ever.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Thanks Lust. Perfect example of pulling her into your reality.
 

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Yes but I wouldn't say that personally... look if she is like

HER: *Rubbing your arm" oh I really like you :)

you don't want to give her the impression that you are falling for the trap!
She WANTS you to believe it, so if you say "helplessly attracted to" she thinks you have fallen for it. And then she will run with it...

BUT

Fantastic advice in the sense you thought I meant it :D
 
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