"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How to turn a ONS on vacation into a casual f**k buddy?

vorbis

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Met this girl on vacation in Cancun there last week. Ended up banging her (should write a LR on it, was an interesting night). She's about a HB6 and nearly 20yo.

For too many reasons to mention she's certainly not ltr material, fairly heavy drug user (moderate myself) and fairly directionless in life. She's also a bit mental.

The flip side is the crazy side is harmless enough and she doesn't live in the same city as me. She's in New Jersey and I'm in Boston. She wouldn't be a bad one to meet every once in a while and have sex with. I broke up with my gf in January so this kind of casual arrangement would be ideal.

I'm not sure how to set this up though. She wants to come to Boston and party with me. Problem is that she's on a completely different wavelength to 99% of my friends. She's liable to say anything. I'd also feel a tad sleazy bringing out a 19yo. I'm 27. Should I be trying to just go visit her in NJ? Or is this a bad idea altogether?

Btw for any comments about me "taking advantage of her", that's not the case, she's no doy eyed innocent!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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speed dawg

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If you don't want her to meet your friends, don't let her. I personally probably wouldn't do it, either. Why not meet halfway and hang out somewhere? Get a hotel room somewhere in the middle, maybe even NYC and hang out, fvck, do whatever you want with her.
 

vorbis

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My friend is after making this awkward for me. He hooked up with the 22yo friend of my one. I put in the groundwork and laid his girl on a plate for him. Now he's after inviting his bird up to Boston!! I'm a bit pissed. I had my one agreeing to meet up in New York. I'm probably stuck now having to invite my one up as well. Personally I think it's a selfish move on his part as his bird is 22 and not as likely to say something daft. Am I overreacting? I have to admit I'd feel a bit awkward introducing a 19yo to people I know.
 
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