OK So I've known this girl for over a year now and it was pretty clear we both liked each other (cuz she's told me) but she had a boyfriend and I had a girlfriend so nothing was going to happen. So I broke up with my girlfriend a few months ago and she finally just broke up with her boyfriend (or on a break whatever the fck that means) and the first thing she tells me is that she just wants to be friends. Now, I'm not retarded and I can read a girls body language pretty well and hers is saying that she still wants me yet she says this "friends" BS. When she told me she just wanted to be friends I responded pretty well I think by saying "are you kidding? that ship has sailed sweety" and I've even told her I've been seeing someone else and she seems pretty jealous by this. I think it may have something to do with the fact that the most she has done with ANY other guys besides her BF is held hands - she's never even kissed another guy. That and she also has INCREDIBLE issues of opening up to people (I mean she's dated her BF for over 2 years and they rarely even talk to each other about anything personal) and she's extremely closed off. I would really like some advice as of what I should do next - I mean I know from her reaction to me "seeing" someone that she obviously cares but it seems to be a matter of making her realize it and like I said she's really out of touch with her emotional side. THANKS FOR HELPING!!!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How to turn a lesbian over...
- Thread starter Pugnacio
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Damnit, I clicked on this thread to read about lesbians....
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
WTF I was hoping for some girl on girl discussion there and all I got was "she doesn't do to much with guys"
I want my 3 minutes back!
I want my 3 minutes back!
depeche101
New Member
with a spatula...
There is your first problem there: caring about her feelings.Pugnacio said:
Spending too much time on someone else's feelings will only make you miserable because you are ignoring yours.
Make sure she is there to make you happy.
Other than that I think you did a good job telling her you're seeing someone else .. keep it up.
P.S. Watch out for virgins - they're crazy.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
