How to treat a flake at work

[benogan]

I have been flirting with a girl from a different department at work quite frequently. My birthday being yesterday, I asked her if she and some friends wanted to come out with mine. She said yes and gave me her number. We texted a little, just teasing about stuff. then the day of my birthday I saw her at work and she asked what i was doing. I told her I was going out and to hit me up and left. About 2 hours later when I was headed out I texted her do you wanna come? no response.

Anyways. I let it go. I had a feeling when I left work before my birthday she was going to bail. The next day I saw her and she asked how it went. I assume she wanted me to say something about her missing it. I said it was a lot of fun, that I was tired, and just went back to flirting/talking as normal.

Anyways. I gave this girl a chance to get to know me and she bailed, so I have no interest in asking her out again. Though I'm wondering if I should continue to flirt or withdraw attention and be short with her. I don't wanna seem upset about it. But I also don't want to invest time into her to be her workplace flirt/attention giver.

 

[Thorninmyside]

Doesn't sound like the flirting was any more than that. Anyone else in her department you could invite out for coffee, bang, or some **** just to show her you're not standing around checking your phone for her texts or attention?

 

[Dgwizdal]

Initiate push/pull, hot/cold. Flirting is good but you need to make her question your interest in her. Throw In a little disqualifying body language and delay/ignore a text or two now and then. Have to get her to realize your value and make it a challenge for her to figure you out. It shouldn't take extra effort for you to game if you'll be seeing her anyway. Don't be discouraged so quick - hamster Need more spin.

Read up.

 

[May_Day]

How about leaving her alone? Both of you are giving some bad advice. You play with fire when you hit on chicks at work. She could complain to the boss and accuse you of harassment if you become rude. She has your texts as evidence and can make sh1t up. I wouldn't put it past some of these girls. Do yourself a favor and don't mix pleasure with work. If you like your job, don't do it.

 

[SgtSplacker]

How about leaving her alone? Both of you are giving some bad advice. You play with fire when you hit on chicks at work. She could complain to the boss and accuse you of harassment if you become rude. She has your texts as evidence and can make sh1t up. I wouldn't put it past some of these girls. Do yourself a favor and don't mix pleasure with work. If you like your job, don't do it.

This.

Yeah man this is a work hookup, it either happens quick and right now or not at all. And from the looks of it this is starting to go sour. Best to cut things off now and game some other HOs.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

My friend thought it was a lovely idea to give his gf a job at his workplace. They broke up and she went crazy and filed a restraining order against him. He lost his job until he could fight against the order. She rallied all the guys at work to testify against him at court. He won the case, but he still couldn't get his job back while his gf is still working there while getting courted by all the male employees.

 

[Dgwizdal]

Awful advice



Best advice.

OP keep things cordial, very light conversation but stop with the flirting shyt. She's not worth jumping thru hoops for, I been there with chicks at work. Sometimes it can turn you bitter and you won't be able to hide it while at work.

You guys OBVIOUSLY FAILED and then got butthurt over it. You act like the kid is oneitised and going out of his way to bang her out. There's no problem generating attraction with a girl at work if he's talking to her anyway - my advice will work which is what he came here for. If you're afraid a little banter is going to burn the company down - then don't

 

[May_Day]

You guys OBVIOUSLY FAILED and then got butthurt over it. You act like the kid is oneitised and going out of his way to bang her out. There's no problem generating attraction with a girl at work if he's talking to her anyway - my advice will work which is what he came here for. If you're afraid a little banter is going to burn the company down - then don't

I figured someone would post something like this. This sounds like a butthurt comment. I watched a co-worker get fired over a little banter at work. The girl cooled on him, she made him out to be a pervert when he really wasn't doing anything wrong. He lost his job and has a nice sexual harassment title on his resume. He had to take sensitivity classes and complete a program. She kept her job even though she was at fault for hitting on him first. Is that worth it just for a little banter? You have no idea that your advice will work. From the looks of it now, things seem not to be going so swell. My advice is designed to make him informed of what can happen when your advice fails. Dealing with a crappy girl is bad enough, but having her at work is even worse. It's not about the company, it's about protecting yourself. I never hit on girls at work because I value my job. I'm chill to everyone at work but that is far as it goes.

 

[VladPatton]

Firstly, what you invited her to was a bday party, not a date. She chose not to attend an event, so it is not really a flake, although she did display a lack of interest in you or your life by doing that.
So, don't be butt-hurt in any way shape or form. Talk to her as per usual as if nothing ever happened and that's about it. If she was interested in you over the 49% mark she would of at least given you a bullshıt excuse. She didn't even have the decency for that. That's cool, you tried. Treat disinterest with disinterest.

This may be for the better, since it's work related.

 

[goldengoose]

Yeah I wouldn't go banging any chicks who are at work when the sh1t hits the fan. Keep as far away from them as possible.

 

[Greasy Pig]

I've banged 13 chicks from work over the years with absolutely no dramas.
So I can't get on my high horse about work flings except to say tread carefully.

I'd just tell her it was an awesome night, heaps of fun, plenty of shots, kept getting hit on by supermodels all night blah blah.
That's worked for me. She'll see you have charisma and are a fun guy.
Next time there are some drinks to be had, playfully ask her if she's going and leave it at that. Don't make it a formal invite.
If she's interested, she'll turn up, get waaay too drunk, make an excuse to be alone with you and give you the gravy-eyed PLEASE JUST FVCKING KISS ME look.
You then might bang her in a public toilet while her boyfriend blows up her phone - as happened to me.

 

[skinnyguy]

This thread makes me LOL