How To Transition From A First Date To A Relationship?

[Ice882]

I know it can't happen immediately. There is a period of organic development. But how can I manage the situation to keep things on track? Is there a particular MO for getting into an LTR? I've never had one before, just hook ups.

Thanks so much.

 

[Warrior74]

Let her bring it up. I know I'm headed to a relationship when she starts asking "what are we?" When I peruse a relationship, it never works out. Sit back and relax and let her ask for it.

 

[Weezy]

Let her bring it up. I know I'm headed to a relationship when she starts asking "what are we?" When I peruse a relationship, it never works out. Sit back and relax and let her ask for it.

don't bring it up. Just take her on 1 date a week for a couple of months and she'll bring it up.

They gotta want it. Most girls I date bring it up after they start letting you hit it. Normally like 4-5 dates.

 

[Teflon_Mcgee]

Is there a particular MO for getting into an LTR?

Only date girls with high interest levels.

 

[kingw]

Don't let your mind go crazy on you, just sit back and relax.

AFC thinking is the greatest danger!

 

[Da Realist]

I have a general obeservation about this: have enough fun and woman will eventually come along to "ruin" it. She'll see a good thing going and will want to be part of it as long as you can make her feel special and happy. I know that sounds cheery and rosy, but it's the truth.

When a guy can stop being mechanical and analyzing everything to try to get a relationship, he loosen up and make her feel a lot better being out with him. The more good feelings she gets, the more she comes around, and then out of nowhere you have this person who for at least the short term will stick to you like a stalker.

 

[Ice882]

so should i behave like I did before the first date, negging and poking fun?

I feel like that would keep things superficial...but I guess if I went out with her once a week for a few months we would be forced beyond the superficial?

Or should I be a little nicer (I know, I know, don't be a nice guy, but I mean nice in a non-AFC I'll-do-anything-for-you-just-ask way. I mean like being compassionate when she's really tired or just failed a test. As in instead of poking fun at it, I give her a little sympathetic kino (hug, pat on the arm) and then try to bring her out of her funk with "friendlier" humor?

 

[xdreamz]

being nice is good. i know it's confusing because nice is such a vague terminology but niceness is always good and can be attractive, it just appears insecure and monotonous (boring) if you're nice too much.