"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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how to think of it not being a waste of time?

spang

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to talk to girls? i mean, not to sound like a whiner, but thats how it feels to me. even if she speaks to you, even if you get a number, even if you set up a date...she can drop communication with you at any point in between all that, or not even talk to you at all.
i have one girl i think might talk to me, but i feel really unmotivated now. i saw her again the other day and i didnt anything...again. you can say "well if you dont talk them you will never find one.", but what am i accomplishing because i cant meet womens expectations? i feel like "what is the point?".
how can i justify this in my mind?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Stop putting them on a pedestal. She should be having your viewpoint (well.. the 'he can drop comms at any time'-part.. not the overall whining).

Enjoy life, strive for continuous improvement of your own personality, talk to girls, invite them into your life - that's how you should view it. Not as a task/chore you have to do to get through life.

Maybe you should focus your energy/time on becoming a better person first - start appreciating yourself.. see yourself as high value. Opening conversations with girls will start to come naturally then.
 

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spang said:
to talk to girls? i mean, not to sound like a whiner, but thats how it feels to me. even if she speaks to you, even if you get a number, even if you set up a date...she can drop communication with you at any point in between all that, or not even talk to you at all.
i have one girl i think might talk to me, but i feel really unmotivated now. i saw her again the other day and i didnt anything...again. you can say "well if you dont talk them you will never find one.", but what am i accomplishing because i cant meet womens expectations? i feel like "what is the point?".
how can i justify this in my mind?
the point is to stick your member into some fresh pussay. that should be motivation enough. believe it or not it feels much better than your hand.

so ... start chasing for as long as it takes to get some. and since i saw that movie Swingers yesterday here is an inspiration for your mindset:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oUa2atNxhfg
 
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Don't worry about it. I've lost interest in dating, relationships, FWB's etc and funnily enough I am actually attracting a bigger pool of women through having a 'I don't really care about this' attitude. It's just ashame I've yet to meet a woman this year who really turns me on big stylie.
 

spang

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flashpoint said:
the point is to stick your member into some fresh pussay. that should be motivation enough. believe it or not it feels much better than your hand.

so ... start chasing for as long as it takes to get some. and since i saw that movie Swingers yesterday here is an inspiration for your mindset:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oUa2atNxhfg
i cant get my member into fresh pussay unless i meet their unrealistic standards first.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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So self improve. Get some hobbies, if you pick up girls, it should be fun not a chore. Make yourself happy and don't worry about chicks.

Or go to some PUA and pay him lots of money to help you get results.

I know which route I prefer.
 

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Just think of them as practice... so when a decent girl does come along, you've hopefully perfected your skills and she doesn't slip through your fingers.
 

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spang said:
i cant get my member into fresh pussay unless i meet their unrealistic standards first.
you need to work on your own expectations. that is what the "bunny/PG13 scene" is about.

you are money, you just dont know it. you are so money. :)
 
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