"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How to tell when you're being played....

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I'm hoping to get some other people's input on things that girls do when they're playing you/stringing you along/etc sometimes i feel like i might be being played but im not really sure and i hate it :-\ ......

signs I can think of are:

- pushing/pulling then completely denying..
- doing things to get your attention then ignoring you..
- flirting/touching/kissing and then giving a "lets just be friends"-type thing repeaditly..
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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For me, it is just easy. If i'm not seeing her pants after a few dates (usually 3 to 5), she's playing.
 

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Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Then this doesn't matter - she just gets bumped down the list.
 

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Soprano,

Trust your instincts. I've been in your shoes, and it smells like your being strung along. All for the attention. My advice to you is...

Limit how much she affects you. Start to recognize the traps she sets and avoid them. For example, My girl of interest would tease me with wanting (through my invitation) to go get a coffee or drink, only to flake at the last moment. This was a power thing with her. She enjoyed the fact that it
p!ssed me off to no end. Now, I never ask her to do anything, and she is always the one to bring up the idea of spending time together only to be greeted with a total lack of enthusiasm.

This girl apears to be a game player and will continue to play games as long as you allow her to. Stop the AFC: How may I please you? behavior and things will change. I suggest you move her down on your list of potential women and find a women who demonstrates some maturity.

Take Care!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Soprano,

Trust your instincts. I've been in your shoes, and it smells like your being strung along. All for the attention. My advice to you is...

Limit how much she affects you. Start to recognize the traps she sets and avoid them. For example, My girl of interest would tease me with wanting (through my invitation) to go get a coffee or drink, only to flake at the last moment. This was a power thing with her. She enjoyed the fact that it
p!ssed me off to no end. Now, I never ask her to do anything, and she is always the one to bring up the idea of spending time together only to be greeted with a total lack of enthusiasm.

This girl apears to be a game player and will continue to play games as long as you allow her to. Stop the AFC: How may I please you? behavior and things will change. I suggest you move her down on your list of potential women and find a women who demonstrates some maturity.

Take Care!
 

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Simple, when she says one thing but does something completely different.
 

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WHat if.. she got out of a relationship but she doesnt want a relationship yet she followes ur moves.. go out on dates.. have fun but still taking things slow.. (holding sex back.. dont making out every 30 min)

but yet she doesnt talk about her ex 24/7 and doenst run to u when shes havin trouble.. in other words... she doenst used u for a emotion tampon?

she still playin u? how can u tell if shes rebounding you?

she still gives mix singals once a while...

Answer that for me
 

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I'm hoping to get some other people's input on things that girls do when they're playing you/stringing you along/etc sometimes i feel like i might be being played but im not really sure and i hate it :-\ ......

signs I can think of are:

- pushing/pulling then completely denying..
- doing things to get your attention then ignoring you..
- flirting/touching/kissing and then giving a "lets just be friends"-type thing repeaditly..

Holy sh*t are you sure your not with the last chick i was with??? GODDDDD DAMMMNNNN she did all of that!!!

1.she would constantly talk about the ex
2.said she wasn't gonna have sex with me
3.pushed and pulled
4. would play with me just for a kiss

And i was too aFc because i took that ***** everywhere
a f*ckin woose bag...never again will i ever do that much for a women...(maybe my wife when i meet her) ;)

She would need my attention then ignore me...it's like damn!!! Why would God make a creature like you?? then you say "oh sh*t i forgot your the devil" :crazy:

The sick thing is i even tried not putting my eggs in the same basket but she reeled my ass in with the "i need you i want you" attitude

my advice is
1.Lower your ideas on how you think about women (there imperfect creatures-there not godessess ...most are stupid (not all) and there insecure as f*ck

2. Don't let a women get Too Close to you while your dating one think about another girl you just got a number from earlier to keep you more calm knowing that the chick your with isn't that special...just good for some head or some fukky fukky.

3.F*ck test...your not like the other guys if she flakes on you or ignores you... quit calling SERIOUSLY im young so no women is worth letting me get all bent up about...have the mindset like "im hella good so whatever there's more women" take your ass out there and find a chick who will look better and do better things to you..

You don't have to take my advice but this has happend to me...and it was like after i got my heart ****ted on stuck on a pitchfork and handed back to me i kinda went into a "players" mindset to keep away from being an AFC "Good Guy" there's nothing wrong with being a good guy to a good girl...but the truth is about 90% of women aren't good girls...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If you spend time and money on a woman expecting sex, but you don't get sex, you're being played. No need to look for signs.
 

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Shiftkey said:
If you spend time and money on a woman expecting sex, but you don't get sex, you're being played. No need to look for signs.
what if they offered u two sex openings BUT they were drunk.. not wasted.. able to walk and to make desicions but wanted sex..

but refused to offer sex when sober..?
 

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sexy_kuta said:
WHat if.. she got out of a relationship but she doesnt want a relationship yet she followes ur moves.. go out on dates.. have fun but still taking things slow.. (holding sex back.. dont making out every 30 min)

but yet she doesnt talk about her ex 24/7 and doenst run to u when shes havin trouble.. in other words... she doenst used u for a emotion tampon?

she still playin u? how can u tell if shes rebounding you?

she still gives mix singals once a while...

Answer that for me
If you're the guy she's seeing right after her last relationship, you are the rebound. It will be your job to carry all of her unpacked baggage and feel the brunt of her accusations and insecurities created from her last relationship.

Now maybe you aren't the one guy that she's going out with right now, but if you try hard enough you can be THE REBOUND GUY!
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
If you're the guy she's seeing right after her last relationship, you are the rebound. It will be your job to carry all of her unpacked baggage and feel the brunt of her accusations and insecurities created from her last relationship.

Now maybe you aren't the one guy that she's going out with right now, but if you try hard enough you can be THE REBOUND GUY!
well 2.5 months after she broke up with him..

i cut her off she had too much baggage.. now how u proceed with her knowing shes free of baggage? thats wherre i am right now
 

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STORMCLOUD said:
Soprano,

Trust your instincts. I've been in your shoes, and it smells like your being strung along. All for the attention. My advice to you is...

Limit how much she affects you. Start to recognize the traps she sets and avoid them. For example, My girl of interest would tease me with wanting (through my invitation) to go get a coffee or drink, only to flake at the last moment. This was a power thing with her. She enjoyed the fact that it
p!ssed me off to no end. Now, I never ask her to do anything, and she is always the one to bring up the idea of spending time together only to be greeted with a total lack of enthusiasm.

This girl apears to be a game player and will continue to play games as long as you allow her to. Stop the AFC: How may I please you? behavior and things will change. I suggest you move her down on your list of potential women and find a women who demonstrates some maturity.

Take Care!
im not the "type" to get played easily but i got a feeling some girl i was with recently was playing me...... kinda ****ed with my head a bit that i was actually letting myself get strung along. i hate that feeling of being lower than the girl, sooooo ****ty and whack.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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sexy_kuta said:
what if they offered u two sex openings BUT they were drunk.. not wasted.. able to walk and to make desicions but wanted sex..

but refused to offer sex when sober..?
You're thinking too much.
 

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dude your getting played if:

you cant touch her pvssy with your finger or your d1ck after hanigng out with her twice.

she says one thing and does another

shes an AW - they are players aka slvts

dude just man up and stop talking to her and when and if you do again keep a strong frame and show her you dont give a fvck and she aint sh!t. thats the way to get an AW.
 

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Shiftkey said:
You're thinking too much.
i got a bad habbit.. but thats what truely killed me

she lost interest because i didnt fuk her.. and reason i didnt fuk her because she was drunk., i had rep to keep
 

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sexy_kuta said:
i got a bad habbit.. but thats what truely killed me

she lost interest because i didnt fuk her.. and reason i didnt fuk her because she was drunk., i had rep to keep
Will your rep matter in 10 years time ??? I really dont think your nailing some drunk bird would wreck your rep man, next time just do it women like to be taken atvantage off, its so when they tell thier friends it sounds like it was all the guys fault and they dont come off looking like slvts.

I've known girls who got drunk and fooled around with soem guy 3 months down the track and suddenly the guy that took advantage of her when she wanted him too is the new boyfriend, hint hint.
 

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typical said:
Will your rep matter in 10 years time ??? I really dont think your nailing some drunk bird would wreck your rep man, next time just do it women like to be taken atvantage off, its so when they tell thier friends it sounds like it was all the guys fault and they dont come off looking like slvts.

I've known girls who got drunk and fooled around with soem guy 3 months down the track and suddenly the guy that took advantage of her when she wanted him too is the new boyfriend, hint hint.
yea but im dating this chick... purseing and LTR
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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