"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How to tell when your girl friend wants to get more intimate..

oldskewlboyjay

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Hey all.. I've been dating this chick for about... a week and a half now and I do really like her. It seems like shes really in to me too. We kiss all the time, cuddle, etc. But I would like to maybe get more intimate with her maybe oral pleausre or even sex. But, how do I tell whether or not she wants to? Is it a good thing to talk about sex with her or better to just attempt it? Any suggestions??
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Fitch

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Actions express more than words. This, by all means, DOES NOT mean fvck her -- even if she expresses her refusal.

My opinion about this sex issue.... it is too early. Give it time man. Anything else... judge by the moment. You will know when to move on; "advance."
 

oldskewlboyjay

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Originally posted by Fitch
Actions express more than words. This, by all means, DOES NOT mean fvck her -- even if she expresses her refusal.

My opinion about this sex issue.... it is too early. Give it time man. Anything else... judge by the moment. You will know when to move on; "advance."
Yeah your right about the sex.. lol i dunno what i was thinking. But what about some foreplay tho? I mean.. like for example the other day we made out on my couch for like.. 10 minutes straight and I couldn't tell whether she wanted me to go further or not... so I didnt. I could of easily "accidentally" fell back wards lol.
 

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haha. it doesnt work that way. HAHA and accidently -- your pants fall off....

Riiight...

What you gave to do is take the initiave. While your kissing do whatever flows through your vivid imagination. Feel her up, etc. Be creative. After that, go with the flow!
 

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If you do things right and get her excited (while making out), she'll be eager for sex. That's when her emotions go on overdrive and she loses it all.

But in this situation, watch out with the condom. If you take ages to put it on, the mood is ruined and she starts having second thoughts. I once spent 5 minutes trying to get a condom on in the dark, and by the end the girl said she wasnt ready for it anymore.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Kaine

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You, I assume are a man. Real men take the lead. Lead her to sex. Go slow but take each progressive step.

Stop when she means NO

If she means no, go back a step, repeat

Repeat until she puts out or until your balls explode and you dump her.

Kaine
 

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You tell by trying and seeing what her reaction is...pretty simple.

Just go a step at a time...start out kissing, then french , then your hands inside her shirt (on her back or hips) then her chest, get her shirt off, then her legs, inside her legs, and so on. One step at a time. Do it slowly, and it'll get her wanting more. The worse she'll do is stop you from going further (for that night). Just be patient and keep advancing it. If she gets impatient, she'll most likely grab your hand/head and throw it wherever she wants it. I personally don't like to get into full blown sex right away, I like to build up to it.

As far as talking about it, when you've gotten your hand inside her, that's probably the time because the next step is obvious.
 

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How to have sex for dummies:

1. Foreplay
2. ?????
3. Profit
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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