"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How to tell when your girl friend wants to get more intimate..

oldskewlboyjay

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Hey all.. I've been dating this chick for about... a week and a half now and I do really like her. It seems like shes really in to me too. We kiss all the time, cuddle, etc. But I would like to maybe get more intimate with her maybe oral pleausre or even sex. But, how do I tell whether or not she wants to? Is it a good thing to talk about sex with her or better to just attempt it? Any suggestions??
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Fitch

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Actions express more than words. This, by all means, DOES NOT mean fvck her -- even if she expresses her refusal.

My opinion about this sex issue.... it is too early. Give it time man. Anything else... judge by the moment. You will know when to move on; "advance."
 

oldskewlboyjay

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Originally posted by Fitch
Actions express more than words. This, by all means, DOES NOT mean fvck her -- even if she expresses her refusal.

My opinion about this sex issue.... it is too early. Give it time man. Anything else... judge by the moment. You will know when to move on; "advance."
Yeah your right about the sex.. lol i dunno what i was thinking. But what about some foreplay tho? I mean.. like for example the other day we made out on my couch for like.. 10 minutes straight and I couldn't tell whether she wanted me to go further or not... so I didnt. I could of easily "accidentally" fell back wards lol.
 

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haha. it doesnt work that way. HAHA and accidently -- your pants fall off....

Riiight...

What you gave to do is take the initiave. While your kissing do whatever flows through your vivid imagination. Feel her up, etc. Be creative. After that, go with the flow!
 

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If you do things right and get her excited (while making out), she'll be eager for sex. That's when her emotions go on overdrive and she loses it all.

But in this situation, watch out with the condom. If you take ages to put it on, the mood is ruined and she starts having second thoughts. I once spent 5 minutes trying to get a condom on in the dark, and by the end the girl said she wasnt ready for it anymore.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Kaine

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You, I assume are a man. Real men take the lead. Lead her to sex. Go slow but take each progressive step.

Stop when she means NO

If she means no, go back a step, repeat

Repeat until she puts out or until your balls explode and you dump her.

Kaine
 

insomniac

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You tell by trying and seeing what her reaction is...pretty simple.

Just go a step at a time...start out kissing, then french , then your hands inside her shirt (on her back or hips) then her chest, get her shirt off, then her legs, inside her legs, and so on. One step at a time. Do it slowly, and it'll get her wanting more. The worse she'll do is stop you from going further (for that night). Just be patient and keep advancing it. If she gets impatient, she'll most likely grab your hand/head and throw it wherever she wants it. I personally don't like to get into full blown sex right away, I like to build up to it.

As far as talking about it, when you've gotten your hand inside her, that's probably the time because the next step is obvious.
 

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How to have sex for dummies:

1. Foreplay
2. ?????
3. Profit
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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