how to tell if your girl is cheating?

[pete101]

is it possible to tell if your girl is cheating?

my summer girlfriend is going partying about 2-3 times a week and doesnt want me there trying to convince me that going to a club with her bf is not the same as going to a club with her girls, tonight shes gone to the local club that all the college people go to so she knows a lot of people there from her class/girl's friends..

should i be suspicious?

she already told me on the weekend she likes attention and gets dressed up so other people notice her.. i was an insecure pvssy last week accusing her of cheating for telling little white lies that no guys came on to her, then later in the day she said they did.

she kept telling me that if she was cheating she wouldn't be so upfront about telling me about guys who came on to her and what they said etc saying she'd keep it a secret and she couldn't understand why i was so jealous cos all her previous ex-bf's always trusted her so she felt bad cos she didnt know what she did wrong to make me feel this way. did i fail in my inquisition?

she says i need to trust her. i said i only known her 2 weeks how am i suppose to trust her.

i have swollen throat glands now and i cant figure out why i have this, i think it must be related to kissing and i only kissed her and she had something similar last week the day after she went to the same club.. i dont know if im just being paranoid.

 

[scrouds]

Why are you so serious after only 2 weeks?

How the hell are you supposed to trust her? Idk its only 2 WEEKS!

You're not supposted to trust her. Do your own thing. Get some other girls. If this girl really likes you, she'll chase after you and do whatever you ask of her, including not going out to the clubs.

Or she won't and you'll have an answer.

 

[Kal0051]

she's your girlfriend after only 2 weeks? Wow, you don't even though this girl, why are you freaking out?

 

[Allurre]

You're going to wind up in an emotional wreck if you stay paranoid. Don't call this girl your girlfriend, you've only known her for two weeks. Technically, you're still dating. She still has options, and so do you.

 

[GrimPhallic]

Haha swollen throat glands = oral herps dude! Wow shes def atleast kissing other guys (you can get oral herps just from kissing, and 80% of people in the USA have it, only 30% know it, and most contract it as a child from kissing relatives). NEXT her and go get checked for STDs now!

Austin

 

[GrimPhallic]

Dude seriously I feel sorry for you, I am being serious, next her bro, be a dj not an idiot. If she ever says you cant go out with her, your girl is def atleast talking to other random guys. Even if she tells you about it... Let me enlighten you on my life in from 2005 to early 2009. You dont want this to happen to you...

I met this chick in 2005, great chick, right when I applied dj skills, things were great. I kept up the dj stuff the whole way through, I only made ONE mistake and that was keeping her interest level high at all times (this is so fvcking hard to do whenyou get into an LTR!) I loved her, only chick Ive ever loved. We both went to college and made it through the whole way, but my major was hard and that is when my time for her decreased. Plus I got into video games and that hurt it as well. Well her ex bf went to the same college and she was secretly studying with him. She hid it bc I acted jealous when I found out she was talking to him 5 months into our relationship (ok two big mistakes). She WOULDNT LET ME MEET HIM. So anyway fast forward I graduate and we come back to cbus, OH. I got a career and she got a full time job so things were pretty good there. Still only fvcked like twice a week. Well finally she quit her job and did nothing but hang at the pool all day. I worked all day. Sex decreased to like never and she was meeting other guys at the pool and TELLING ME ABOUT IT, but WOULDNT LET ME MEET THEM. So whatever my dumb ass marrys this chick (wtf was I thinking) bc we were engaged and blamed no sex on the stress of planning marriage. Then she cheats. TOLD ME ABOUT THE GUY BUT WOULDNT LET ME MEET HIM. Well I knew where he was so I met him and told him she told me everything, and then he told me everything haha. Divorce and $15,000 short six months after marriage.

Long story short, get out now, and dont ever get a serious gf again unless you are a true master dj. Seriously, just date around with as many chicks as you can until you can hold your dj skills over fire without being burned bro.

Austin

 

[horaholic]

she kept telling me that if she was cheating she wouldn't be so upfront about telling me about guys who came on to her and what they said etc saying she'd keep it a secret and she couldn't understand why i was so jealous cos all her previous ex-bf's always trusted her so she felt bad cos she didnt know what she did wrong to make me feel this way. did i fail in my inquisition?

This.

My ex used to use that tactic as well. She would be SO honest with me about everything (except the actual cheating part) that you think to yourself 'why would she be so blatant about it if she's cheating? Why would she mention anything at all?' Its so they can still be sort of honest with you about it, and you think they are being honest about it as well. Your girls screwed up by actually TELLING you she uses this tactic. She's trying to use LOGIC to convince you otherwise. She's also using her partial honesty into guilting you to being the bad guy here. Thats why they partially tell you. If you get mad, then they have an excuse to justify themselves, and they think to themselves, 'he's accusing me of cheating, so I might as well do it.' or 'Im glad I cheated, if he's gonna accuse me of it anyway.' I like this on: 'all my other BF's trusted me.' I've heard that one before. Iv'e also heard the 'play dumb' approach too.

This is what I've heard before: "I didnt know it'd upset you if I went to the hotsprings ALONE with another guy you've never met. I wouldnt care if YOU did that. Dont you trust me? I dont know if I can be with someone who's so insecure. Why do you think I'm even telling you that I did this if I were cheating? I wouldnt have told you at all!" Sound familiar?

Im not saying she's cheating, but the tactics are there.

 

[pete101]

whoa..

this might make it sound even worse, when she went out last week and we had that talk about how i dont trust her the next day we were outside chilling outside her dorms with her girlfriends.. 1 of the guys from the night before tried to come on to her, she 'says' that when 1 of the guys came on to her she told him she had a bf, he told her it was ok cos she had a gf back home.. she says her reaction was.. 'hmm.. ok bye' but u cant be sure if she's lying.

anyway when the group of guys came over to say hi to her girlfriends (the girlfriends like some of the guys of the group) my girl whispered to me for us to leave cos she were going to play poker and she didnt want to so we left.. i didnt think anything of it at first and said to her 'why did we leave?' she tells me as we're walking away that 1 of the guys there was the 1 who came on to her (at this point she knows im really jealous from our conversations earlier in the day and supposedly was worried i'd act out on it) and she didn't want to be around that or didn't think i want to be around that. is that a sign of guilt that maybe she did something wrong?

in my head immediately was she made out with him and was embarassed and ashamed so tried to vacate the situation asap. when i grilled her on it later we got into big arguments about how i thought she was cheating.

 

[scrouds]

Check to see if her vagina got loose?

 

[londonzen]

Check to see if her vagina got loose?

lol beat me 2 it

 

[drak_ool]

2 things: first, you ve only known this girl for 2 weeks. She is not your gf, I don't care how you put it. So why are you making such an emotional investment in this girl? you ve got 400+ posts here, haven't you learned anything?

then...

my summer girlfriend is going partying about 2-3 times a week and doesnt want me there

wtf?

clearly this girl has you by the balls and you have no power over her.

I say either next her, or do the same to her as she's doing to you, aka go out with your boys and get some fresh pvssy, while tapping her for as long as you still can.

and to answer your question: no one can ever be sure of this, but this is probably the clearer case i ve seen on sosuave of a girl cheating...

 

[pete101]

my swollen throat glands have been prevalent since last friday, i felt it coming along at first but i thought it was just a cold or something but it got worse as the weekend went on to monday/tuesday this week where it hurts now, all i know is after she went partying after last wednesday, thursday she said her throat was hurting.. i gave her some medicine and when she woke up from her nap she didn't have it any longer. she didn't have any symptoms like i have as mine have been persistently swollen.. is it possible she did kiss some other guy and i caught it from her?

i've never had a throat problem like this before so i am sure it must be related to kissing.

 

[drewsg]

She had a couple shots of man juice and gave you a big wet kiss when you accused her of cheating.

 

[Commandante]

Do you want to trust somebody? Get a dog man!

If I were you I would let test me for STDs and keep my d!ck away from this wh*re.

 

[Warrior74]

Your a sosymp chump. And you know it. Deep down in your gut you know what the deal is. You just don't want to hear it or believe it. Your girl is a ho and is playing your dumb ass. You know what she's doing by keeping you away from the club and from guys..you know she doesn't want you to know.

You jumped into a "relationship" too soon. You and I both know you did.

Drop and give me 50 push ups.

You overtly communicated distrust and accused her openly of infidelity.

Drop and give me 50 push ups.

You let her lead you around like she was the man in this realationship telling you what you can and can't do.

Drop and give me 50 push ups.

As you do each of these 150 push ups I want you to yell out each time. I WILL NOT BE A SUCKER AGAIN!

Start dating other women. Treat her as a fcktoy, show up at the club randomly with other girls just to piss her off. Give her the drama she craves and then dump her sorry ass. Stop being a good boy. Good luck.