The LadyKiller
Senior Don Juan
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- Oct 5, 2011
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I went out with a HB7 three times over the past couple of weeks. The first date she spent the night. The second date (weeknight) we played mini-golf and grabbed drinks. The third date started off well with dinner and drinks, but she then tells me her friend is meeting up because the friend is going through a "crisis" with her job. As I was expecting date #3 to end similarly to date #1, this was clearly not part of the plan. Once the friend showed up and we all briefly chatted, I told HB7 I was headed home. We shared another kiss and that was that.
Even before that abrupt exit, I wasn't seeing a long-term future between us. Our goals don't align (I want kids and she doesn't, she wants to try living abroad and I want to live near family, she smokes and I don't). Neither of us has touched base the past couple of days, when previously we texted daily.
For a first date or when you haven't Fclosed, a text or gradually descending into silence seems to be common. For longer-term relationships, in-person or a phone call applies. But what about after 3 dates, generally considered the decision time of determining if a relationship should go further? Making things murkier for me is that I didn't care for the guest appearance from her friend (I believe it was at least partly manufactured), and I would normally go silent after something like that - which combats my usual upfront approach of saying things aren't working out.
Even before that abrupt exit, I wasn't seeing a long-term future between us. Our goals don't align (I want kids and she doesn't, she wants to try living abroad and I want to live near family, she smokes and I don't). Neither of us has touched base the past couple of days, when previously we texted daily.
For a first date or when you haven't Fclosed, a text or gradually descending into silence seems to be common. For longer-term relationships, in-person or a phone call applies. But what about after 3 dates, generally considered the decision time of determining if a relationship should go further? Making things murkier for me is that I didn't care for the guest appearance from her friend (I believe it was at least partly manufactured), and I would normally go silent after something like that - which combats my usual upfront approach of saying things aren't working out.
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