How to tell gf I'm meeting ex for a drink?

[Helter Skelter]

I don't know how revalent this is, but I have an ex-girlfriend who broke up with me and is now married. She's always calling me to go out to eat or whatever.
Currently, I'm not serious with anyone so it's not a problem. But, I wouldn't be hanging with her if I was serious with anyone.

I'm not attracted to her anymore so it's easy being friends. I think she would get back with me if she could, so maybe it's just an ego boost for me, I'm not sure.

 

[echo1212]

You made the right decision.

 

[NewMan]

Good move.... it's for the best.

 

[myfriendblu]

Easy. you don't. Why would you? What is she, your mother? Stop acting all AFC. You don't have to tell your current GF jack squat

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

If you HAVE TO meet her and you are SO concerned about your current gf, ask her to come along. Bring a camera too, it could get ugly

 

[Oscar Wilde]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
If you HAVE TO meet her and you are SO concerned about your current gf, ask her to come along. Bring a camera too, it could get ugly

lol, cheers.

myfriendblu: hop right up on that there bandwagon why doncha... *sigh* now it's telling my GF. Hadn't we agreed in another thread that if you're in an LTR that it's ok to act AFC sometimes?


Damn, where's that AFC thread gone?

Osc.

 

[myfriendblu]

Originally posted by Oscar Wilde
lol, cheers.

myfriendblu: hop right up on that there bandwagon why doncha... *sigh* now it's telling my GF. Hadn't we agreed in another thread that if you're in an LTR that it's ok to act AFC sometimes?


Damn, where's that AFC thread gone?

Osc.

LOL bro,
Actually, I didn't even read anyone elses resonse. Thats purely my own. Remember, you gotta keep the mystery going. be mysterious. You don't have to tell your current GF about this whatsoever. IM SURE your current GF has ALL KINDS of little things you don't know about, like the few times she may have danced with some other guy, the times she has talked with an ex on the phone, that one time some guy gave her his number, ETC.....Don't worry bout it.

Oh and one more thing - I don't advocate acting like an AFC EVER. EVER. I swear till my dying days of being some 100 year old decrepid old man, I will have my DJ mentality intact.

 

[chlywly]

If meeting your ex is nothing more than platonic and you care about your girlfriend just let her know you havn't seen her for a while and she's coming down and you two are meeting up for a drink, tell her which date and just be honest and sincere.

On the other case, if you have other plans which you aren't being honest to us or yourself about, then maybe it's not the best idea to let her know, you be the judge of your own actions.

Know thyself.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by chlywly
If meeting your ex is nothing more than platonic and you care about your girlfriend just let her know you havn't seen her for a while and she's coming down and you two are meeting up for a drink, tell her which date and just be honest and sincere.

On the other case, if you have other plans which you aren't being honest to us or yourself about, then maybe it's not the best idea to let her know, you be the judge of your own actions.

Know thyself.

I want to add something that goes along with chlywly's post. When you find yourself in a situation which you are not sure how it will effect your partner, ask yourself whether or not you would follow through with your partner present. If not, don't go through with it.

I know it's the "safe way" to play it, but it is meant to be used when you are in a relationship which you greatly care about.