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How To Tell A Girl You're Single?

High Voltage

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How do I tell a girl I'm single without lowering my value in her eyes?

"Single" implies I'm not dating anyone = unable to get a girl = loser.

"Dating" implies I'm seeing other girls = unattainable.

Ideally, I'd like to slip some version of "I'm single" early in a conversation to let her know I'm available. At the same time I want to avoid the stench of desperation that comes with overtly stating it. Thoughts? :cool:
 

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No need to "slip it into conversation". Your actions should show your interest in her, and that's what she should care about. And by actions, I'm refering to you getting her number, or inviting her out on a date, etc.

If she asks if you are single, throw out the old, "it's complicated".
 

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Boilermaker said:
you say it's complicated
I found this line to be a mixed bag because to some it seems like you are trying to hide something.

Go with "i'm just dating around" because you are telegraphing that even though you arent' with someone exclusively, you are still looking but you do have options.
 

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Don't volunteer this information until she really grills you on it. Why do you feel the need to let the girl know you're available? It should be the other way around. Let her use her girly round-about method to communicate her availability to you, and let her have fun playing girly detective with her friends to figure out whether you're available or not.
 

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if she asks you can just repeat deniro's line from heat ''I'm alone but I'm not lonely'' ;-)
 

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you don't tell a girl you're single. only desperate men do that. You wait until she asks. And you tell her you're not involved in anything serious right now. And thats it. If she probes for more info like if you are sleeping with someone else, you just bust her out, "you really like me huh?". Watch her deny it, and then just close the deal. Classic business, field tested, warrior approved.
 

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Warrior74 said:
you don't tell a girl you're single. only desperate men do that. You wait until she asks. And you tell her you're not involved in anything serious right now. And thats it. If she probes for more info like if you are sleeping with someone else, you just bust her out, "you really like me huh?". Watch her deny it, and then just close the deal. Classic business, field tested, warrior approved.
The simplest answers are the best.

High Voltage, never offer up information like "I'm single." Initially, never answer direct questions (which are designed to lower your value, as you correctly mention). Answer ambiguously, or not at all. Classic sh*t test responses. The fact that you may be dating other women does not make you unattainable, it makes you interesting and desirable.
 

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No reason to tell her.... reaks of too available. Let your actions speak for themselves...

If she asks... say something mysterious/ funny. " What are you trying to proposition me already? slow down.. we just met." im sure you can think of better..

If she,really pushes... still dont answer straight... waive your ring finger... and smile.
 

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This thread is another symptom that North American culture if totally and completely fvcked up. I've read a travel report on the Domenican Republics and a lady asked a guy if he's has a woman - he said no - then she said, okay then she's his woman. When I read that I thought of this thread and just saw the contrast. I'm like, if that was North America, then she's be running for the hills and find a man that has a woman? Now you have to be taken or occuplied to have a chance to attract a single girl? This is not natural. All this stuff teaches you is how to sell out to this fvcked up culure.
 

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Don't offer this information unless explicitly asked for it.

Why don't you slip some version of, "You wanna get together sometime?" or "What's your phone number" in the conversation instead? That's how you let a girl know you're available. :p
 

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There is nothing wrong with answering that you are single if a girl asks. It is completely retarded to think otherwise. If a girl asks you if you are single, and you say you are, then she will be HAPPY IF she is interested in you.

Otherwise she could have been simply making conversation.

If you are on another level, and just looking for a suave response, then here is one, free of charge:

girl: "hey, Donny Juan, are you single?"

you: "for now." wink and smile.
 
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