How to tell a girl this..if im even supposed to at all

[irocknike23]

Ok so I got this chick friend who has been one of my best friends since childhood and kinda gives me girl advice from time to time(what better source to get get girl advice from than a girl)

anyways to make a mega insanely long conversation short theres a chick I met recently and i REALLY like her.

but she kinda doesnt like me back i dont think


well my chick friend at the end of the conversation told me that the strongest thing that bonds a girl to a guy is for the girl to know that the guy wants her.

she told me that for a girl to feel wanted is the easiest way to get girls sprung/in love with you(people always assume its sex)


but how do i let her know? do i tell her? or do i show her and how do i show her if thats the case? because hugging a girl doesnt say anything anymore, now a days girls get hugs from all their guy friends all the time, its their way of saying hello/goodbye....or do i hug her extra tight...or what?



this is the questions i didnt get to ask my friend because she had to go

and today shes taking a all day boat trip up the coast and i thinks she forgot her phone at her dorm because she isnt picking up so i guess i will let you guys answer these questions for me because im anxious to hear the answer

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

Your friend doesn't know what she's talking about.

What she said is true for needy women only. It's not true for women with self esteem or those without attachment issues.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

This sounds like something that would happen in high school. Never ask a girl for advice..... Thats like one of the the first things you learn when dealing with females.

If you like the girl. Get her number and ask her to go out with you. You shouldn't have to say that you like someone of the opposite sex. (That's what females do).

 

[Iceberg]

well my chick friend at the end of the conversation told me that the strongest thing that bonds a girl to a guy is for the girl to know that the guy wants her.

I'm sure your chick friend means well, but girls are absolutely useless in dating advice. Actually girls can be useful....hear what they say, and then do the opposite.

she told me that for a girl to feel wanted is the easiest way to get girls sprung/in love with you(people always assume its sex)

No. It's the easiest way to get a girl BORED of you. If you follow this advice, you'd present zero challenge. She'd have your balls before she even touched you, and she'd know it, and she'd get bored of it. Girls need to be challenged.

Men pursue the challenge of women's bodies. And women pursue the challenge of a man's heart. That is the eternal push and pull of male-female interaction.

but how do i let her know? do i tell her? or do i show her and how do i show her if thats the case? because hugging a girl doesnt say anything anymore, now a days girls get hugs from all their guy friends all the time, its their way of saying hello/goodbye....or do i hug her extra tight...or what?

Tight hugs? Have you read anything on this site yet?

 

[irocknike23]

thanks for the advice guys now im really glad she didnt pick her phone up today and I posted this.

 

[Alex DeLarge]

I think your friend's advice can be helpful. But when taking it into our context, can be easily misconstrued.

Ex: "the strongest thing that bonds a girl to a guy is for the girl to know that the guy wants her."

Now this advice here can be taken in two ways..

1.) You tell the girl you want her
2.) You SHOW the girl you want her

Telling a girl you like her is totally highschool BS and will just leave you hangin in the friendzone.

If you SHOW the girl you like her (Ex: ask her out.. Action dates are perfect for this.. Go to a park, Go out on the town, bring her to your favorite spots, or just go for a walk.) You can't be all anxious and nervous cause it will ruin you from keeping cool and collected. At the end of the date, just give her a hug and lean in for the kiss.

Another note on the "Don't trust a woman's opinion on dating" myth..

What do women say they admire the most in men?

You guessed it.. CONFIDENCE



I would say a more accurate assumption would be to Not trust a h0e's advice on dating.

 

[MurdocIsGod]

thanks for the advice guys now im really glad she didnt pick her phone up today and I posted this.

Here's what you do, ask her to come out with you some place or get her to come over to yours... All about steering conversations, you can get her to do either one. I typically invite them over to my place 99% of the time. If I ask them over specifically for sex, sometimes they make me meet them some other place first but yeah.

Also another interesting thing. Sometimes a girl will tell you she'll only go so far with you then the second you start making out with her, her clothes FALL OFF with absolutely NO resistance, when earlier she was saying she won't **** you only kiss. So be aware of that. Don't push hard for anything because when she's there in the moment she'll be more receptive to whatever you want to do.

 

[irocknike23]

Here's what you do, ask her to come out with you some place or get her to come over to yours... All about steering conversations, you can get her to do either one. I typically invite them over to my place 99% of the time. If I ask them over specifically for sex, sometimes they make me meet them some other place first but yeah.

Also another interesting thing. Sometimes a girl will tell you she'll only go so far with you then the second you start making out with her, her clothes FALL OFF with absolutely NO resistance, when earlier she was saying she won't **** you only kiss. So be aware of that. Don't push hard for anything because when she's there in the moment she'll be more receptive to whatever you want to do.

this is what i never got

why does making out with girls make them want it so bad even if they dont want to do it(like in your case)

for me making out is cool but it doesnt super turn me on

 

[ARrocket]

I think your friend's advice can be helpful. But when taking it into our context, can be easily misconstrued.

Ex: "the strongest thing that bonds a girl to a guy is for the girl to know that the guy wants her."

Now this advice here can be taken in two ways..

1.) You tell the girl you want her
2.) You SHOW the girl you want her

Telling a girl you like her is totally highschool BS and will just leave you hangin in the friendzone.

If you SHOW the girl you like her (Ex: ask her out.. Action dates are perfect for this.. Go to a park, Go out on the town, bring her to your favorite spots, or just go for a walk.) You can't be all anxious and nervous cause it will ruin you from keeping cool and collected. At the end of the date, just give her a hug and lean in for the kiss.

Another note on the "Don't trust a woman's opinion on dating" myth..

What do women say they admire the most in men?

You guessed it.. CONFIDENCE



I would say a more accurate assumption would be to Not trust a h0e's advice on dating.

This. +1

 

[thevilittletroll]

some good advice so far guys.
rule #1 never take advice from a woman when it comes to seduction. especially when it comes to a girl that you are trying to get with. it is very difficult to have a logical conversation about attracting a woman with females. they just dont get it. remember women cant explain attraction with their logical mind, they feel attraction emotioanlly. i'm sure you've heard a woman say "i dont know what it is about him." its also like when a woman tells you she wants a nice guy. she dates nice guy, gets bored and dumps him for no reason. then she goes back to the bad boy that treats her like crap. she cant even explain to you why she keeps dating bad boys. well i'll tell you why, she's attracted to them subconciously, even though her logical mind tells her she wants nice guys. so never believe any woman when she tells you what she's attracted to. i've had so many girls tell what their "type" is, which i had absolutely nothing in common with. but i still was able to get the girl. as far as doing the opposite of everything they like, i like to ask the girl what did you hate about your last bf? do all that except for maybe cheating.

about getting this girl. do not show this girl that you want her upfront. if you do this before you have attracted her she will run for the hills and you will be deemed as the creepy, psycho, obsessed with her guy. you dont want that. she already has plenty of those guys in her phone already. its ok to show interest, just dont go overboard with it. keep her guessing on wether or not you are really into her, and it will get her chasing you.

 

[Vice]

but how do i let her know? do i tell her? or do i show her and how do i show her if thats the case? because hugging a girl doesnt say anything anymore, now a days girls get hugs from all their guy friends all the time, its their way of saying hello/goodbye....or do i hug her extra tight...or what?

Grab her ass when you hug her. That'll tell her everything she needs to know :rock:

But seriously dude... YOU LIVE IN LOS ANGELES. I would KILL to live there, and here you are... not getting women.

Ugh. I need to get out of here ASAP.

 

[irocknike23]

Grab her ass when you hug her. That'll tell her everything she needs to know :rock:

But seriously dude... YOU LIVE IN LOS ANGELES. I would KILL to live there, and here you are... not getting women.

Ugh. I need to get out of here ASAP.

who said i dont get women...

i play DB for the USC squad getting laid is very easy

i live in a world where finding a relationship with a chick is way harder than getting laid.

to be honest getting laid is as easy as getting your next breath of air