Meisterman
Senior Don Juan
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A girl who I was hitting it off with for 6 weeks, hooking up a lot, implied she was my girlfriend, etc. flaked on me one night by ignoring my text and calls and went NC for 2 weeks out of nowhere. She has not initiated a text since, but I've seen her in person a few times and talked to her briefly. I have also texted her once since then and she replied. Thing is, when she sees me in person she's always the first one to say something, wave, smile, says she misses me and wants to catch up soon, etc. Obviously I know it's bulls*** because she hasn't made an effort to hang out with me since she left. But I'm not going to act like a stubborn bit*h or be bitter about it, so I've kept our conversations short and casual. The thing is...when she sees me in person, she walks up to me and gives me long hugs, resting her head on my chest just like she used to do when we were seeing each other. I usually just don't return the hug, or stand there awkwardly slowly moving away.
Is this not inappropriate behavior? I feel like telling her that's not acceptable and no hugs, but I'm not sure how to say it without coming across as bitter and butt hurt, because I'm not. And I don't want to make the rest of the encounter awkward. It just seems like it's leading me on and she does it to make herself feel better and try to be nice, but it just comes off as rude and disrespectful IMO, because she basically threw me under the bus but then acts like nothing ever happened and tries to sweet talk. Do you guys agree? And how do I handle this situation when she greets me and tries to do it again? I preferably want to be polite, friendly, but also firm and assertive to let her know where I'm coming from, and that I won't be treated like a rag doll who gets toyed with and tossed around in every direction.
Is this not inappropriate behavior? I feel like telling her that's not acceptable and no hugs, but I'm not sure how to say it without coming across as bitter and butt hurt, because I'm not. And I don't want to make the rest of the encounter awkward. It just seems like it's leading me on and she does it to make herself feel better and try to be nice, but it just comes off as rude and disrespectful IMO, because she basically threw me under the bus but then acts like nothing ever happened and tries to sweet talk. Do you guys agree? And how do I handle this situation when she greets me and tries to do it again? I preferably want to be polite, friendly, but also firm and assertive to let her know where I'm coming from, and that I won't be treated like a rag doll who gets toyed with and tossed around in every direction.
