How to talk to a girl who added you on facebook?

[CharlieCW]

I know this tread is kinda old but, you know, I want some new ideas. This has happeneed to me already 3 times, that an unknown girl adds me over Facebook because she thinks I'm either interesting or cute.

Since I can't like a girl only by her looks but only for her personality, I'm never interested on any kind of relationship more than on the idea to get new female friends (we know women are amazing sources of information). Call me noob or anything, but I don't have much experience regarding online chat by the moment, and I would like some tips of:

1) How should I talk to her when she adds me
2) What to talk about (without coming as obvious, aka, asking her interests in a plain way when Facebook already does)
3) Get to have confidence

Since I'm a busy man (undergraduate student), at the start I rely much on inbox messages since I barely chat, and maybe later actually do the chat if I got some free time.

I appreciate all your help, and don't forget to dance :woo:

 

[DragonBlood]

How should I talk to her when she adds me

Hi, Do I know you?


Talk about whatever see responds with also ask where she lives what shes doing.

If she lives nearby:

Cool Well if you live in <such in such> lets hang out at <coffee shop>. Im free Tuesday what about you?

Push for number also for obvious logistic reasons. If she wants to bring friends just go with it, you dont know her and they might be more interesting. If she accuses you of pushing too hard or shows resistance or whatever you can say "Well you added me, if you just want to stalk me though thats fine lol"


The main thing here is not to flirt with her over messages and come across as a desperate orbiter to add to her collection. Your not coming across super interested your teasing out where she is coming from FIRST. You have to move this casually to an actual meet up and run standard game then. If she refuses shes just an attention ***** looking for a fix so dont worry about it.

Dont assume (which your post seems to do) all the girls innocently like YOU just because they added you, it takes one click to do that. She might actually already have a few boyfriends and be more interested in the attention fix/crush you can offer via chat. Let me know how it goes mate and dont get played in 'online game'.

 

[CharlieCW]

Thanks for the tip bro. No don't worry, I never assumed she liked me just by adding me (I'm sexy but that's not my best quality haha jk), neither I'm interested since I like another girl now, but like the idea of friendship.

She lives in another state so for the while it's going to be only facebook and probably next some phonecalls, but coincidentally I already planned to visit her state for academic reasons (summer program) so it would be nice to have someone to hang out while I'm in there. So yeah, don't wanna give a bad impression.

I loved the phrase "Well you added me, if you just want to stalk me though thats fine lol", I'm gonna use it if I need it XD

 

[Nickface]

This thread has everything I hate but I will add my two cents anyway. First off, I don't even have a Facebook for the pure reason of the stupidity you come upon with chicks on there. Not saying your wrong by any means, but any girl who adds you or vice versa will absolutely not work out. That being said, just make it as casual as possible. Just get to know her to the point where you may potentially meet her. Don't get to know her too much where you get emotionally invested.

I also can't stand being friends with girls. No idea how you or any guy can really do that. You go online for information, not through women. But if you think it's a good idea to "be friends" because you may see her by going to her state, then so be it. Your just going to open yourself up to annoyance and such. You talk to a girl by relating to her. Say you always wanted to go to "x" place(where she is) and make her talk about it. Ask for pictures. Ask about all the cool things that go on there, etc.

Good luck OP