"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How to strike up a conversation on facebook?

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Any ideas on how to strike up a convo on facebook with a girl you know but don't regularly talk to without seeming "unnatural" ?

Some people has suggested to write something and then say "oops, wrong person, anyways, hows it going?"
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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sbgm said:
Any ideas on how to strike up a convo on facebook with a girl you know but don't regularly talk to without seeming "unnatural" ?

Some people has suggested to write something and then say "oops, wrong person, anyways, hows it going?"
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1) Don't worry about being unnatural. Seriously, in fact the unnatual ones sometimes have a better chance of working. Perfect is boring.

2) I would not send a facebook message. Girls are constantly bombarded with thirsty dudes on facebook.

3) If you already know the girl, why do you need some sort of "opener"? I sense that maybe you think she is out of you league. You ever look at an ugly girl and go "Wow I wonder how I will talk to her!?" Of course not she's ugly and you are not worried. You have to have the same attitude with this chick you want to have a relationship with. You already blew her up in your mind and you are afraid messaging her properly on Facebook...
 
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ArcBound said:
1) Don't worry about being unnatural. Seriously, in fact the unnatual ones sometimes have a better chance of working. Perfect is boring.

2) I would not send a facebook message. Girls are constantly bombarded with thirsty dudes on facebook.

3) If you already know the girl, why do you need some sort of "opener"? I sense that maybe you think she is out of you league. You ever look at an ugly girl and go "Wow I wonder how I will talk to her!?" Of course not she's ugly and you are not worried. You have to have the same attitude with this chick you want to have a relationship with. You already blew her up in your mind and you are afraid messaging her properly on Facebook...
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That's golden right there, thanks! I know her, but we haven't talked for long, so just don't wanna come off as unatural. On the other hand, as you say, if she is in the same league as me and can picture me as relationship material, then she would probably not care what I write, she would only be happy that I did write.
 
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That's golden right there, thanks! I know her, but we haven't talked for long, so just don't wanna come off as unatural. On the other hand, as you say, if she is in the same league as me and can picture me as relationship material, then she would probably not care what I write, she would only be happy that I did write.
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That's the start of a very good attitude
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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