How to stop worrying?

[Starriol]

I sometimes worry about things... most of my worries comes from fantasy, that is, they are either very highly improbable or they never happen.

I've read a book that says 99% of our worries never happen.

This is true, looking back in all my lifes worries.

The point is, how do you stop worring about something you recognize is pure fantasie and it's never gonna happen?

Even though I realize this rationaly, sometimes I can't get some worrys of my mind, it's very bad with me...
Thanks.

 

[Alphathree]

You could try learning some NLP (Neuro-linguistic programming)

Generally, you'll want to structure your worry as an external behaviour and an internal state. For example:

"I think that when I grow old, women won't be attracted to me anymore"
( external behaviours )

"and that makes me worry about my future"
( internal state )

Now you can break this down logically with any of the following tools. For example you can try a counterexample:

Have I known any older men that are with attractive women? Obviously yes-- there are many.

Or you can do it by trying to paint the problem with a wide brush:

Is it the case that there are absolutely no women who like older men? Obviously not.

You can also do what David DeAngelo calls "chunk down". In this case, you might say:

By what logic can I conclude that women don't like older men? Well, they're older and more wrinkly. So what? That's rediculous because as long as a man takes care of himself, older men have more confidence, more resources, etc.

Anyway, you can apply this technique to almost any psychological problem you're having, especially ones involving women.

EDIT: I could share other NLP things with you, but you'd literally need to hear my voice...

 

[jballa24]

you could try affirmations, they say the average human takes 21 days to change a habit. Wheather it be a phobia or worrying or performance anxiety it can be changed in 3 weeks with persistance and motivation. Write down some positve affirmations and repeat them to yourself 10 times a day for 3 weeks and see how you feel, im doing it right now!! hope i could help.