"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How to stop procrastinating?

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I'd love to get into a long story of how this has been negatively affecting my life and and storytelling and all, but I have a paper I haven't started yet due in two hours. Seriously.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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you have complete control over if you want or don't want to procrastinate. If you don't have the willpower, then it sucks to be you.
 

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I just learned about a great way to stop procrastinating...I'll tell you about it later.
 

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When the rope gets tight around my neck, that's when I stop procrastinating, lol.

But seriously, old fashioned will power to do a small amount of work often is the only way to keep away from a miserable situation.

So set up tiny goals which you can complete fast and easily (eg: write two sentences about X) and spread the work over large amount of time (ie start early).
 

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^^^ This ^^^

I have several small timers in my place and I use them to turn seemingly impossible tasks into do-able small chunks.

When my place gets a little sloppy, I set a timer for 5 minutes in each room, and then go around to each section of my apt. and clean up just for those 5 minutes. Then I might go around again for a second sweep. Using a timer is one of the best things I've ever discovered, because it adds a sense of structure, which is what I need.

For a written project, break it into tiny tasks.
1) Clear off desk. Go do something else.
2) Place paper, pencils, pens, notebooks, textbooks into position on desk. Go do something else.
3) Read reference materials to get an initial exposure. Go DSE.
4) Read again and then start writing for 10 or 15 minutes. Go DDS.

You get the idea. Not only are you getting the task done in small, manageable chunks, you are also training yourself to realize that these task which seem overwhelming are actually do-able by you.

Works for me. I've come a long way using these techniques. For me, the whole idea is creating structure where there is none.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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