"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How to stop procrastinating?

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I'd love to get into a long story of how this has been negatively affecting my life and and storytelling and all, but I have a paper I haven't started yet due in two hours. Seriously.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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you have complete control over if you want or don't want to procrastinate. If you don't have the willpower, then it sucks to be you.
 

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I just learned about a great way to stop procrastinating...I'll tell you about it later.
 

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When the rope gets tight around my neck, that's when I stop procrastinating, lol.

But seriously, old fashioned will power to do a small amount of work often is the only way to keep away from a miserable situation.

So set up tiny goals which you can complete fast and easily (eg: write two sentences about X) and spread the work over large amount of time (ie start early).
 

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^^^ This ^^^

I have several small timers in my place and I use them to turn seemingly impossible tasks into do-able small chunks.

When my place gets a little sloppy, I set a timer for 5 minutes in each room, and then go around to each section of my apt. and clean up just for those 5 minutes. Then I might go around again for a second sweep. Using a timer is one of the best things I've ever discovered, because it adds a sense of structure, which is what I need.

For a written project, break it into tiny tasks.
1) Clear off desk. Go do something else.
2) Place paper, pencils, pens, notebooks, textbooks into position on desk. Go do something else.
3) Read reference materials to get an initial exposure. Go DSE.
4) Read again and then start writing for 10 or 15 minutes. Go DDS.

You get the idea. Not only are you getting the task done in small, manageable chunks, you are also training yourself to realize that these task which seem overwhelming are actually do-able by you.

Works for me. I've come a long way using these techniques. For me, the whole idea is creating structure where there is none.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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