"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How to Stop Flaking after Quick Number Closes...

spinaroonie

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From another forum.

I do day game at college campuses. My day game interactions last no more than 5-10 minutes. Usually I pull a number from it. Staying any longer in set is a waste of time, and it's mostly not necessary if a player has tight text & phone game. Spend your time gaming more chicks and pulling more numbers.

The biggest challenge in pickup is not getting the number - girls these days give out their numbers like candy. The problem is getting them to pick up the phone when you call, or respond to your text. Often they won't. So how to combat flaky numbers?

The most critical game is played in text and phone.

Keep in mind that she's only actually spoken to you for 5 minutes, you're still a "random" to her. It takes a bit of time to establish enough rapport/comfort for the girl to be invested and comfortable enough to meet with you alone.

In my experience with college girls, it takes a good 2-3 days of steady text correspondence through the course of the day to get her comfortable enough to even answer the phone. An impromptu phone call from a "random" guy is "creepy" to her and they never pick up.

I like the "text to call" strategy. After you exchange a series of texts, you cut the interaction with something like "hitting the gym now, you free for a quick call around 10? Chat like normal adults." Then call her right before she goes to bed that time, talk to her for 20 minutes and set up a time to meet. At this point she knows your voice, you've moved from "random guy" to "normal interesting guy" and she feels comfortable enough to meet you alone.

You probably don't have to deal with this BS with girls 25+, but college girls are of the MSN/Facebook/BBM/texting/"I'm not good on the phone" generation.

So my method is:

Day 1 - get number, text her that night "good meeting you, callback humour")
Day 2-3 - exchange texts through the day to build rapport/establish comfort
Day 4 - "text to call" & phone call
Day 5/6//7 - meet

If you can't get a meet within a week of the number-close, it's a bust - at this point she's likely forgotten what you look like.

IMO this is the most effective strategy to combat flakes from quick number closes, and transition to meet and lay.

Input appreciated.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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IamJosan

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Looks familiar to my 'action plan', but it's really hard to get them to actually go out with you. Sure, you flirt with them and they agree to go out with you, but when you actually try to execute the plans, they just ignore you completely.

At that point I kinda just forget about it, and maybe try once more 2 weeks later, and if I get no response then I forget about her.

Most of the girls I meet are at college too, so if I end up running into them again I talk and flirt and see where I can take it, but the phone game is pretty much out of the question.
 
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