How To Stay Calm?!?

[23*]

What's up gentlemen?! I visit your site pretty often and I have read a huge part of the bible. Of course, I already had some girlfriends and I'm usually flirting pretty hard everywhere I go... but within the last days I seem to transform into a shy and nervous wussy! Therefore I seriously need your help on this one...

...the story goes like this: about twice a week I'm picking up a good friend of mine from college, because he's sitting in a wheelchair. Well, one of the girls in his class is my ultimate dreamgirl, without a doubt. She's not just sexy as hell, she also seems to be smart, loyal, down-to-earth, and just perfect for a great LTR.

As far as I can see she's interested in me as well. When we first saw each other we were already having a very deep and intense eye-contact and her eyes seem to follow me everywhere I go.

Today I was waiting out of the classroom for my friend and all of a sudden this girl came out of the room, looked at me, and even said "Hello!" to my surprise. I was absolutely not prepared for a "Hello!" (as stupid as it might sound), therefore my only response was a cool smile.

Now I'm scared that a smile was not enough... and she might be mad at me and ignore me from now on?!? What do you think?

My next question would be how (if this girl is still feeling me) I could approach her? I'm always nervous as sh!t when I see her... she's really turning my whole world around... I'm just not myself when she's around!

How can I stay calm and keep my emotions together in order to overcome the shyness and wussyness around the girl of my dreams?

Please help me out, fellas! Thanx-a-lot!!!

 

[Lost In the Seas]

Chances are she is not the girl of your dreams. Know her deeper and you are bound to find some **** in her, awful in sex, emotional problems, serious family issues, bizzare habbits etc.

Now kick yourself and make yourself convince that she is JUST AN ORDINARY GIRL, which mostly she is.

If you keep on making yourself emphasizing on how she is such a "dream girl" to you, you will only make yourself nervous and scared to death when approaching her because of fear of not be able to get her.

Your solution is the reverse, convince yourself that she is NOT your dream girl, which in the cruel realiaty she probably won't be, and your nervousness should vanish.

 

[Q-Pid]

You sound infactuated with her bud. Your best bet is to boost your confidence by flirting heavilly with your female friends, which should make you feel easier around women at least.

Hard as it is, try not to think about it too much. Too much thinking can lead to over-complicating the situation

 

[darthsidious]

sieg heil! sieg heil!

 

[23*]

Thanx for your help, Lost In the Seas + Q-Unit! I guess you are right and the best thing would be to convince myself that she's just a regular girl... but that's a hard task, especially because I never had such strong feelings for a girl...

...and what makes the situation even worse: I might only see for another two or three times... so I gotta make a move... asap!!!

 

[Centaurion]

Originally posted by darthsidious
sieg heil! sieg heil!

what the..?

someone please ban this fooker

 

[Gee]

i wouldnt think she'd ignore you just becuase you only gave a smile when she said hello.

you could always start up a conversation with her next time you see her, so she knows you're not rude if you thnk she thinks you are rude for it.