"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How to stay alpha in this situation

Irs88

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This girl is my close friends's gf. They have been going out for a while. We were going to take a hard class together in the morning because of a good teacher.(im an afternoon guy) The teachers changed and she changed classes to a later time period. She told me I should join in her new class. SCREW THAT. im not going to be pushed around. She didn't even ask me that she will be changing classes. I should just ditch her and take whatever time I am comfortable with instead of being her little biatch and following her around? What should i say reply to her on fb? btw I dont even think her class is open anymore and that i am stuck at the 730 time. There are like 4-5 other classes for this topic and if i waitlist I will probably get in.

lol. how did you get a 9 o clock class? I think I am just going to stick through the 730 class.

shows i have the ability to walk away and not take her ****. i know im not gaming this girl. But i just need to know that I am using this alpha thing in real life properly.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Did you join the class for the teacher or the girl? It sounds like the girl. Why are you even trying to be"alpha" about this? I don't understand.

If you want to change classes for the teacher and get in that teachers class at another time then that sounds like a game plan. That's the way forward.

If you are just gonna follow some chic around and take a class that's not benifiting you in the way you need (good teacher) then forget it. It's about you and your education, not about a broad, who isn't even yours. That's how you act "alpha". Focus on whats best for your education. Who cares what she thinks shes not your chick. Is she gonna help you pass these classes? If so....get on board and use her for that A! What is your goal in this situation?
 

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She is hot and smart. Its good to have a study buddy that you know will help you when you get stuck. I have a bad teacher now and I am not a morning person. I think its best to just use her and change to her class. But the social circle i am in right now sees me as a person who is getting out of his AFC-ness.

I really don't care switching to her class and getting her help. Its just that I dont want to A) follow her around like I am her biatch. B)I might not even get in her class C) she didn't even tell me she was changing classes until after. Plus, i already switched into the 730 class because she persisted on making me change. I dont want to do it two times in a row..

My goal is to show her that I am not going to be pushed around by her and also to get a good teacher. It just seems that the only way to get the good teacher is to be "pushed around" by her and submit to her choice that she made by herself.
 

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I agree with the first couple post.

Second, This is your close friends girlfriend. Are you saying your trying to steal your best friends girlfriend? Or did I miss-understand that?
 

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no no im not trying to steal gf. I just dont want her to think I am not a pusssy/AFC because she has a lot of cute friends I can get introduced and meet and this is the first one on one time with her.

Yea, I guess warrior was dead on. Just do whats best for your education. Thanksk guys.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Irs88 said:
Yea, I guess warrior was dead on. Just do whats best for your education.
Seriously.

Consider this, what if this girl knew you were so worried about what she thought that you made this thread?

She would laugh at you.

You really shouldn't care whether or not you seem alpha to someone ELSE's girlfriend bro.

You're ****in confused. Go find some single girls and DON'T worry about what they think.
 
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