"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Accension

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Accension here, new to the forum not the game.

How do you start your day?
This is the question I recently asked myself, the more I thought the more I realised that how you go about your day either makes for a good one or a bad one no matter what plays of fate are made.

The waking of a man.
Ideally a man wakes well rested and refreshed having gone to bed at suitable times.
He'll then tend to his bedroom, fixing his bed which is a good habit to get into.

Before you even start your day.
You should be absolutely pumped and charged at todays opportunities.
With set goals in place one has things they could actually achieve today and go to bed at the end with a feeling of accomplishment, that little bit more confident in yourself.

Fix up your hygine, washing up well to prepare for a solid day with the best start possible.
Have a decent breakfast. I'm talking slow burning carbohydrates not sugar packed rubbish.

Before you leave your house whatever happens today is completely up to you, don't leave dishes in the sink to dirty your mood on return.
What ever has held you back in the past leave it behind because when you step out that door you're not the man you were 5 minutes ago and you won't be the same man you were after reading this.

The above paragraph is an important concept, the present is truely what defines us. The past may have shaped us but what we hold onto in the present is who we are.

Day to day bustle.
You're outside, feeling the breeze of opportunity and it's now you can shape something new for yourself.
The walk to school or work, bus trips and inbetweens, standing in ques, sitting at your desk. What ever the occasion I can almost guarantee that females will exist around you.

I see all these guys going out their way sarging when there's really no need.
Those same guys tend to pass up opportunities when they're not sarging.
You aren't that guy.

Instead you are going to socialise.
Don't use the term 'game', 'sarge', 'pickup', whatever. It just puts you in the wrong state of mind.
All you are doing is socialising and there's nothing wrong with that.

Say your hellos, make your small talk and have fun getting to know new people.
This'll open doors for you.
You can choose to walk in and get her number but regardless, you are opening doors and eventually you are going to end up in a new place experiencing the very things you probably came here in the first place to do.

I tell you what, if you just read this. Nothing happens. Those doors will neither be shut or open.
They won't even exist.

The sleeping of a man.
Your day is finished and hopefully you made it a good one, if you can sit down at the end and say you didn't miss an opportunity.
That you ignored the negatives and didn't let them affect you.

Then you probably had an awesome day!

To make tomorrow just as promising, ask yourself what do you want from tomorrow and when that day comes.
Live it.

Everyday is another chance to do what you couldn't do yesterday.
Accension out.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Excellent post, Accension.

This is the kind of practical reminder we need more of here. I guarantee you, a few guys will yawn and say, "I've heard that before", but they are blind to the paradigm you have articulated here for day-to-day living.

I am printing this now and will keep it in a prominant place for a daily reminder.

+1 Rep points for you.

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I enjoyed reading this post, well written and motivating Accension.
 

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Great post Accension. One thing I would suggest to add to "Before you even start your day" would be to do a small workout of some sort (this can be as little as some push ups and sit ups if you like), it gets your body going and can take only a couple of minutes.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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See I miss the days when I used to work from 8 am to 4 pm, but now I work from 4pm to 2am so I have time to go to school during the day. Since there's no school since it's summer, I get a good nights sleep but I don't wake up til like 11AM even if I go to sleep by 3AM (which is pretty good considering I'm leaving work at 2AM.) I actually am more productive when I DO have to wake up for class, because I'm put into "go-mode" earlier in my day. However, I usually have to nap during each day before I go to work, but that's not so bad.
 

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Excellent post bro. Socializing is all it is :) No need to complicate things, you hit them right on that. Sounds like you're an organized guy that's got his life together. Good job :)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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