"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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00Kevin

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The key to starting a relationship with a woman is Casual Persistence.

To many guys out there are too forward and just don’t know when to make their move on a woman. If you want a steady girl or a night with a girl that is totally hot then Casual Persistence may be the answer for you.

When you are courting a woman, be sure to do the following.

1. Make the relationship always seem like it is occurring by chance. Plan nothing with her. Don’t make any plans with her unless they are on a moments notice. Don’t call her and ask her if she wants to go out a week from now. Call her up when you feel like it and say something like, “hey I have nothing to do tonight and I was wondering if you would like to go out.” (ie. hey you are nothing special to me). This sentence can be said in a way that makes her wonder if you are just joking.

2. Only see or talk to her at irregular or infrequent intervals (casual correspondence)

3. Remove all levels of formality with her by never talking to her unless you are relaxed. Any time you go out with her it should be considered only a casual evening with a friend. “Tell her, yeah don’t wear anything special. I’m just going out with jeans on. So you can do the same. “

4. Don’t take her seriously. Things are very superficial at this point and she ONLY deserves a casual inspection. After all you have other women who you are also very casual with.

5. Show little interest or concern and be nonchalant towards anything she says or does. After all you are the MAN you are the one that has the gifts that she requires. It is up to her to be interested in you. Let her toss her net on you.

6. Keep things at a distance until it is warranted. Don’t let her give you a friendly kiss. After all, why the hell do you need a friendly kiss? You don’t even know each other that well. What you really need is a BJ

7. Keep this up for about 1-3 months. During this time you don’t care what happens and you damn well don’t initiate anything with her. Let her do that. When she wants you it will be obvious and at that point you can go for the kill. Strangely however you will find that your prey will come to you. Just make sure you don’t miss. Take her out on a real date some place nice

Some girls are easy so for those this doesn’t apply and you don’t need it. It is up to you to make that judgment call: is she easy or is she a challenge?
It is easy to shoot rabbits in the forest but only a real hunter can bring down real prey.

Note, if you try this, do it all correctly, and it doesn't work for you, then you are a) just plain ugly or b) she is a lesbo
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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CharmaLeo

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Nice post. I find very useful to take this approach since you can work on mulitple women at the same time.

All the pressure is taken out of the equation by being casual. And they can take their time to get closer to you too. As you say at the end they are the ones looking for you.
 

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SUPERB POST!
you are so very right......!!
best post i've read in weeks!!!!
 

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Notice that 00Kev relies on the natural attraction generated by a working relationship to take care of the commitment issue itself by drawing her in. If making a committed relationship seems like any kind of effort on your part (i.e. all the people on here asking, "How can I get her to be steady with me?" "How do I ask for a relationship"? "Blah blah blah??"), then it's not ready and you're not doing something right.

It's also possible that one of you could not be INTO the other enough to generate a working commitment. You may have a F-buddy on your hands and that's all she's interested in...in which case the only real solution is to wait for her to change her interests ( :rolleyes: ) or find another woman.

Rely on attraction. If you yank the reel before the fish bites the hook, you're just going to scare it off. ;)

(I've also heard the exact opposite: "We've been going out for 5 years and she was talking about dating and marriage and kids, but now she's drifting off...how do I keep her around?"...in that case you waited too long and your fish has taken the bait and left.)
 
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