How to smooth out schedules and keep it fun and not stressful for the girl?

[Vincent90]

Hey guys,

For the past month my gaming technique sometimes hits a brick wall: she is interested but our schedules collide.

Example with a current girl:
*Met her, bla bla*
Her: Yeah, i would love to come over! Are you sure won't drink that bottle of wine without me?
Vincent90: I'm more of a distilled guy myself, so no worries there
Vincent90: I can do thursday
Vincent90: Or else next week
Her: Wow, you're a pretty direct guy haha
Vincent90: Not really, but you seem like a fun person to have a drink with
Her: But sounds fun, than i can judge if it is fun in your town as well
Vincent90: I live in *****, are you familiar with that town?
Vincent90: What is your phone number, then we'll see which day we do
Her: I only know it from carnaval
Her: *Gave phone number*

*Small banter through texting*
Her: And what is the reason you have meetings all day long? Something fun and interesting
Vincent90: I'll tell you on thursday
Her: Huh, i thought you said next week
Vincent90: That's also an option, next monday and thursday are good. How is your schedule?
Her: Uhm yeah monday i meet my brother, but thursday i have a half appointment so chances are that that wont go through


How can i smooth out these kind of situations where our schedules are not a match and i keep the power?

 

[n52]

You're asking too far ahead, agree to meet tomorrow or the day after. Schedule it around your schedule and hers (stay up a little late after work for one night). Make time. If neither of you can, neither of you have time for each other. Remember, its very unlikely anyone's schedules will match but people make it work.

 

[TheException]

Vincent90: That's also an option, next monday and thursday are good. How


How can i smooth out these kind of situations where our schedules are not a match and i keep the power?

I know exactly what you mean....and the solution is simple.

Dont ask for specific days at first. Ask this..."What days are you free to hangout next week?" Thats it.....she will then respond with a couple days and you pick one that fits with your schedule. Then you can get specific by saying "cool, Lets do xyz at xyz thursday at 8pm".

This method avoids the unnecessary back and forth of picking specific days and feeling like a try hard.

 

[Uncharted]

I know exactly what you mean....and the solution is simple.

Dont ask for specific days at first. Ask this..."What days are you free to hangout next week?"

This is ALWAYS what I do - even for the first date. If she's interested she will give more than one day, then you can schedule.

 

[TheCWord]

I know exactly what you mean....and the solution is simple.

Dont ask for specific days at first. Ask this..."What days are you free to hangout next week?"

This is ALWAYS what I do - even for the first date. If she's interested she will give more than one day, then you can schedule.

Me as well.