How to slow down online girl

[Willard]

I met a girl online, we have talked twice both time for a couple of hours. She is hot, great personality, not much baggage, no kids, never married. We both have very clear recent pics of each other. She wants to talk all time, I just got off the phone with her and she wants me to call her tonight. I'm going to meet her tomorrow night. She already talks about doing things in the future. She asked me if I was seeing anyone else, I lied and told her no. I'm going out with another girl tonight, I told her I was going to the movies with my mom.

I'm hoping she is just excited and not needy, I don't want to lose the attraction, she gives me all kinds of compliments.

Is there any way i get her to chill her out on the moving too fast thing?

 

[The Duke]

My guess is she is insecure and has some anxiety issues.

Girls that suffer from anxiety and insecurity tend to come on very fast. they will tell you every thing you want to hear and throw out all sorts of ideas about you and her spending time together in the very near future. They all get caught up in the fairy tale and instead of trying to get to know you, they are trying to construct great plans to match their fairy tale thats in their irrational & emotional pea brain.

She probably sees you as a great catch and better than herself which is why she is trying to suck you up before the other girls do.

Girls that act like she does usually end up accusing you of cheating on them every time you are 30 minutes late getting to her place. She will want you with her 24-7 too.

Try to find out what kind of childhood she had. Does she come from divorced parents.....abandonment issues? This will shed some light onto the "real" her you will likely be dealing with.

They all have great personalities at first. Too bad it never lasts. I don't know how many top shelf "hot" girls you've been with but every one of them I've been with had issues. Its the nature of the beast. Just proceed with caution.

 

[Willard]

That's great advice, thanks. I've had all sorts of problems with hot girls as well, I usually go slow, but sometimes I end up going at their pace, that's not what I want to happen with this one, because I have two other high quality woman I'm seeing and I want to choose the best one. With the online girl I won't have time to see anyone else with the nightly phone calls and constant texts. We have a lot in common and she says she wants to be friends first, but I know from experience what a girls says is often different than what she means and does. I'm going to be cautious.

 

[MOTU]

I have experienced this too and I agree with what Howie said. I just want to add, that in my experience, their idea of being friends first and not rushing into anything means they don't want to fvck you right away but they also don't want you to see anyone else.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

I recently got back online, other than Tinder (which has taken a big down hill dive btw) and have met two chicks. Both, as soon as they "decided" they wanted to go out with me, basically treated me as if we were already in an LTR, even before we met! Both of them! Texting me all the time, even late at night, "are you still up?". The first one I basically had to nurse through the whole thing (I'm evenutally moving) we talked everyday for three days before we even met. She was complaining that she'd fall for me then I'd move. I'm thinking "we haven't even met yet..."

This might be insecurity, but both of these chicks, I can put some money on it, don't sleep around. I honestly think they both would make good LTR's. They were both needy but they both seemed like one man chicks. One of them even turned off her profile the day we went out.

Here's the thing though.....I told em both, in so many words, that I was currently dating. One of them I banged the first night and she went through all of these emotions the next day about me eventually leaving, then finally said that she couldn't do it. Whatever, I still banged her, and my conscious is clear.... and I have a feeling she's going to come back around. The second, we've just met for a meet and greet, it was supposed to be an hour but ended up being two and a half, and she's all about getting together again.

My advice: Tell them that you're "dating". Why wouldn't you be? There is nothing wrong with that. If she wants to end it because of this, so be it. Treat it as a filter. "I haven't even met you yet and I'm not allowed to be dating anyone else?" "Later."

Take care of business, but be a man. Don't lead em on, that solves nothing, and gets you nowhere, and really, causes you more stress. The truth shall set you free.

 

[Willard]

I have experienced this too and I agree with what Howie said. I just want to add, that in my experience, their idea of being friends first and not rushing into anything means they don't want to fvck you right away but they also don't want you to see anyone else.

I usually don't sleep with girls until after the third date, so that might be a plus. We spoke again tonight for another 2 hours, she told me parents stayed together until the dad passed away.

She seems really into me even though we haven't met her in person, she is having me pick her up her house, which I have never done with an online girl.

Also we have everything in common it seems, she told me several time how much she likes talking to me, she loves my voice, how cute I am over the phone etc..


Also she told me she has small pretty feet, which I love, she has a fantastic body, she works out 6 times a week, great butt, boobs etc...

All in all it sounds too good to be true, my last gf is BPD, so I don't want to rush into anything and I told her that.

I'm going to the casino with her tomorrow night, I hope she isn't BPD and mirroring me. She also told me she believes in love at first sight which is a red flag to me.

I'm taking her with a grain of salt, I'm not hoping for much, i'm going to have to get rid of my other two girls if I really like her after I see her. I think she requires a lot of attention, which I don't mind, if I really like her. Which means I won't have the time for other girls.

She said she was with a guy for 12 years in NY they broke up about a year ago, that's when she moved to Florida, She doesn't have a lot of friends yet, plus she is kind of isolated here. Assuming she's telling the truth for the most part, she does sound like a good one.

 

[VikingKing]

Dude same thing happened to me. This girl was already making plans to come visit me after a couple weeks. She got really obsessed, it was weird.

Every one called me a troll for this thread though. But every word on it is true. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=206772

If they act like this now, they are on their best behavior because they are interested in you and its the beginning.

But how will they behave when they know they have you?

 

[Willard]

I met her last night, she is much hotter than I expected. I took her to the casino, we had a great time.

I find out she was married and has 2 kids who are older and moved out, not a big deal, wasn't on her profile. She still seems too good to be true, she called me twice yesterday once during the day to say hi and once while I was on my way to see if I was ok, she seems really nice, so i'm going to proceed cautiously.

She had me pick her up at her place, that's the first time an online girl had me do that.

It was nice spending the night at the casino with one of the hottest girls in the place and I won some money.

 

[IBreatheSpears]

If they act like this now, they are on their best behavior because they are interested in you and its the beginning.

But how will they behave when they know they have you?

If you mean she'll behave in a way that you don't like (disrespectful, ...) then you walk away. If the threat of you walking is always hanging in the air, then she'll never start behaving badly, and if she does, then you keep walking, she's not the one.

 

[VikingKing]

If you mean she'll behave in a way that you don't like (disrespectful, ...) then you walk away. If the threat of you walking is always hanging in the air, then she'll never start behaving badly, and if she does, then you keep walking, she's not the one.

Women who are very needy are prone to crazy behavior.

 

[Willard]

I was wrong about her, she isn't needy. She is actually just really nice and down to earth. I'm probably going to make her my main girl, I'm going to stop seeing another girl, because I'm not really that interested. That will leave me with other one, a girl from Peru, who is almost as hot, a lot younger, and believes the man should be in control, great sense of humor, no kids, fiery Latin temper, really down to earth. I'm in a pretty good spot right now

 

[amoka]

I was wrong about her, she isn't needy. She is actually just really nice and down to earth. I'm probably going to make her my main girl, I'm going to stop seeing another girl, because I'm not really that interested. That will leave me with other one, a girl from Peru, who is almost as hot, a lot younger, and believes the man should be in control, great sense of humor, no kids, fiery Latin temper, really down to earth. I'm in a pretty good spot right now

Look at Mr. Charming.

 

[Willard]

Look at Mr. Charming.

Funny, I don't really even want to see anyone else, I think online girl might work out, it's going as well as it can, If all goes well in a couple of months I will be exclusive with her. For now, I still remember what it feels like to get my heart ripped out of my chest a couple of months ago, so I'm going to keep my options open.

 

[G_Govan]

Sounds like she's playing LTR game. How old is she?

 

[Willard]

She's 44, I spoke with her tonight, another two hours and she wants me to call her later. She really let down her guard with me, compliments me all the time. I'm going to stop seeing anyone else to see how this pans out. She is really intelligent, and she trusts me, I can't get away with seeing anyone else, and I don't want to anyway.