How to show that you just want FUN and nothing serious?

[Babnik]

Getting laid and getting a relationship is the same thing except that in short fling thing you just walk away.

Without WORDS, how do you portray a girl that you just want sex and fun with her and NOTHING serious? It seems the only way to do so is with words, but that kills MYSTERY and girls love mystery!

If you plainly state you want to have fun with her, thats almost saying "I just want to do you" and its like saying "I like you" instead of kissing a girl! Seems like the wrong thing to do but the only one...

 

[realsmoothie]

Getting laid and getting a relationship is the same thing except that in short fling thing you just walk away.

Without WORDS, how do you portray a girl that you just want sex and fun with her and NOTHING serious? It seems the only way to do so is with words, but that kills MYSTERY and girls love mystery!

If you plainly state you want to have fun with her, thats almost saying "I just want to do you" and its like saying "I like you" instead of kissing a girl! Seems like the wrong thing to do but the only one...

I was asking about this on another thread, and the responses I got said that the best way to go about it is to tell her straight up. This does seem a little counterintuitive to me for the same reason you mentioned...

...BUT I have recently started seeing this girl that I most definitely only want as an FB. I never really said much to her about this other than she mentioned something about dating a guy my age (she's 20, I'm 32) and I was like "hey, I didn't say anything about marriage" in a kidding kind of way and she appears to be OK with it. I was at her place Friday night and she was practically ripping off her clothes.

My suggestion? I'm certainly no expert but it seems to me that the ideal way to deal with this is to treat any discussion of the "relationship" out in the open but not to take it too seriously. If you're joking with her a little she can't react too badly.

I mean, with this latest girl, there was definitely potential for disaster. She's young and pretty idealistic when it comes to love, so had I messed up she could have been hurt. But... so far... this hasn't happened. She's happy, and horny, and so am I.

 

[Snow Plowman]

Frames and Sub-communication.

The whole interaction should be just fun and playful. After the first lay is when you actually choose whether you want her as a Fukbuddy, Long term relationship (gf/bf), or open relationship. (Able to have more than 1 gf) There are many other types of relationships but this is just the basic catergories.

 

[Babnik]

Frames and Sub-communication.

The whole interaction should be just fun and playful. After the first lay is when you actually choose whether you want her as a Fukbuddy, Long term relationship (gf/bf), or open relationship. (Able to have more than 1 gf) There are many other types of relationships but this is just the basic catergories.

Frame and subcommunication is the same for whether you want GF or a lay BEFORE first sexual intercourse! Thats the problem...

If you act SERIOUS - you won't get ANY LTR or any lay!