How to show a girl your into her?

[Krueg]

I dont know to act around girls I like. I know what not to be; a Nice Guy. But, I want to show her I'm interested as well without being too aggressive or not showing enough interest. Its kind of hard for me to explain through words. I feel like I think too much. Like wondering what to do or say. Or should I be "cool" & laid back or be flirty.

Some guys say just be yourself and talk about her. But it sounds too simple. Maybe it is!?

I get excitement when I get that number or date and realize this girl likes me. So when I'm on the date I'm thinking; Okay how do I let her know I'm interested in her? Should I kino and flirt? Try to hold her hand or go for a kiss? Or is all that for the girls. Do real men not flirt?

Maybe I got it all wrong and do not need to show my interest other than accepting and making dates.

My head is spinning! :crazy:

 

[Love's Orphan]

Ask for her #. Ask her out. Thats enough to show you are interested.

 

[bigneil]

Talk to lots of women. Cashiers at the grocery store is a good start. Whole foods and places like that have nice girls there.

How do you let her know you're interested?? On a DATE?? SHE KNOWS.

Don't touch them unless they touch you. People who recommend kino on strangers are called stalkers. Even if I were to see my current lady who I've been dating 5 months I wouldn't touch her unless she touched me first.

 

[Soy]

Don't touch them unless they touch you. People who recommend kino on strangers are called stalkers. Even if I were to see my current lady who I've been dating 5 months I wouldn't touch her unless she touched me first.

That goes exactly against what I have read from top PUAs. Maybe you might mean kino isn't good too early on but maybe better later on when you got to know her? And do you also mean you wouldn't take your 5 month gf by the hand or hug her unless she does first?

 

[Soy]

@Krueg I know how you feel, sometimes we gotta lay back from too much dating advice and focus yourself on a few principles when talking with girls, perhaps something like "Be Yourself, Have Fun" for example, is something I usually keep in the back of my mind.

 

[PapiChulo]

You flirt like crazy or subtly depending on the woman. I flirt with everyone because it is fun! You don't flirt if you are 240lbs bodybuilder, you just flex your pecs and smile occasionally. You start kino right away with something that establishes the mutual bonding such as handshake. You also do things that invite other people to touch you, such as teasing the woman till she playfully hits you on the shoulder. You can start by simply poking a woman and there you have it, you broke through the touch barrier! Then escalate till you kiss and get sex! Kino is obsolutely the best weapon in your seduction arsenal and many women have no balls to break the touch bearier first. If she touches you playfully first it is a major interest indicator that she wants your attention. Reward her back with some kino cause they dig it even more than men! It's an art form, you play a woman's body like an instrument......

 

[Krueg]

I've never really been the type for flirting or kino. It seems like something more for women cause they seem to be good at it. I guess my type of flirting is teasing..

It's kind of weird, If theres a girl I like. I'll play it cool and just be friendly. Next thing I know they'll invite me out on a date. Once I realize they like me. I guess thats when I get excited and dont know how to behave.

Maybe thats my problem. I'm probably over analyzing the situation and should just be me (Don Juan Me) and acted how I been before I got the date.

I dont know.. I just been single for awhile and getting that edge.

 

[yuppaz]

Keep doing what your doing, because it's working and it doesn't mean changing who you are.

When you are with the girl on a date and need to move things forward, and you can kind of tell that she is feeling you (she smiles a lot, flirts with you, touches you, plays with her hair or a necklace or something and just generally looks like she wants to eat you alive) you don't want to TELL her how into her you are...that would be terrible, you instead want to keep your cool but start to touch her. Giver her little side hugs, put your arm around her, touch the small of her back...stuff like that. Look up something called an "escalation ladder" that can help you. It's also good to go out and move around with her, take her to a different spot, take her back to your place for a glass of wine, or to look at your amazing dinosaur bone collection or whatever else.

Also don't hesitate to kiss the girl if she seems to like your touch and like spending time with you. Do it right in the middle of the date, toward the beginning, whenever really as long as you can sense that she likes you....and if she's out with you....SHE LIKES YOU.

Don't make a big deal out of it, deep down she's really hoping that YOU are into HER, and you can confirm this by touching, kissing etc. BUT NEVER, EVER by telling her this with words... EVEREVEREVEREVEREVEREVER!!!!!!!!!! (well unless you have been together for a long time)

 

[nightcrawler]

I've never really been the type for flirting or kino. It seems like something more for women cause they seem to be good at it. I guess my type of flirting is teasing..

It's kind of weird, If theres a girl I like. I'll play it cool and just be friendly. Next thing I know they'll invite me out on a date. Once I realize they like me. I guess thats when I get excited and dont know how to behave.

Maybe thats my problem. I'm probably over analyzing the situation and should just be me (Don Juan Me) and acted how I been before I got the date.

I dont know.. I just been single for awhile and getting that edge.

you are over-analyzing the situation.

i saw your bodyspace you're a great looking guy....it's no wonder they are asking you on dates.

stop making silly poses though you look ridiculous.

it all depends on the type of female dude...just go with the flow, and don't let the female forget that yea, you want to have sex with her.

 

[PapiChulo]

Women suck at flirting! Some of the women that I flirted with actually picked up my own moves. We, as men, are way funnier, have balls and don't care much.

 

[Krueg]

Thanks for the replies. Everyone gave me a lil something to think about. No up coming dates yet but I think I'll be more prepared.

 

[LittleBigOne]

I guess thats when I get excited and dont know how to behave.

Maybe thats my problem. I'm probably over analyzing the situation and should just be me (Don Juan Me) and acted how I been before I got the date.

I dont know.. I just been single for awhile and getting that edge.

Read these posts of Darkdream, they will help you:

Eliminate desire
The holy grail of dating
Just play the game

 

[Nicholas]

Take the emotions out of equasion. You can't act properly and be laid back if you constantly think and analyse. Remember how you behave with girls you are not into, how cool and relaxed you can be. It takes time to trully realise that you are most important, after all you are giving your time to her. She must be the one who does things to attract you, she must qualify herself. Only then, when you reach that stadium where you are relaxed and comfortable, you can be playful and seductive, minimize your efforts and improve the results.

Thing that bugged me also (and maybe still is) is fantasising about what might happen and attaching my emotions to a random girl. That ultimately makes you a stalker who is just trying too hard and eventually fails. Only after you conquer your own emotions you can act in a manner of a true Don Juan.

My observation.

 

[bigneil]

That goes exactly against what I have read from top PUAs. Maybe you might mean kino isn't good too early on but maybe better later on when you got to know her? And do you also mean you wouldn't take your 5 month gf by the hand or hug her unless she does first?

Not Doc Love and Carlos Xuma. I'm anti-kino until they touch me. When I would see my last date she would run over and hug me, or I'd open my door and she'd come in and hug me. I would intentionally try to create space and she would always close the space. Then after we'd sit together and she touched me a few times, I'd massage her.

 

[zekko]

Not Doc Love and Carlos Xuma. I'm anti-kino until they touch me. When I would see my last date she would run over and hug me, or I'd open my door and she'd come in and hug me. I would intentionally try to create space and she would always close the space. Then after we'd sit together and she touched me a few times, I'd massage her.

When you're trying to create attraction with a new girl though, touching her is a great way to do it. If she's not chasing you to begin with, she's not going to be running into your arms. Kino gets her thinking about you. In fact, it's probably the best answer to the original question (how to show a girl you're into her). Don't overdo it and she will start to crave your touch.