how to separate yourself from afc

[stallion]

I've been wondering, although we want to grab our balls and talk to the girls, collect rejections, ask for numbers, how do we separate ourselves from the afc who flock to girls???

They also try to be ****y and funny besides catering to their afc tendencies.

Recently, I was on a road trip with a student group of about 35 people and during that time, I was still trying to pull myself together after a breakup so I was just doing nothing but observing people.

True, I was being a loner for doing that but I noticed a interesting scene where the alpha males and their afc buddies are all flocking over every female in site with real afc standing around by themselves. This makes it very hard for me because I was doing the same thing as those lone afcs.

I'm thinking about joining them and moving on to other people so that I won't be sticking around all the time. but I'm not so sure about this approach.

 

[So pimp its scary]

This brings up an excellent point... I believe it was Pook that said : 'Being a Dj is not a sum of techniques, but it is an attitude' or something to that effect.

The real difference is not that you are approaching women, but rather HOW you are approaching women. You could do the standard 'grind them from behind' routine, but you won't necessarily be better off (probably worse... well definately worse off).

It's not about approaching women so much as just having the right attitude about life that will set you apart from the other guys. If you can go and approach a woman, and make her feel good, no matter what she was like originally, it only becomes a matter of time before you have a great reputation... people will genuinely want to be around you.

 

[Player_Supreme]

The following is from a guy who is the author of "Space Aged Pimping" whom lives in England (english gentleman)...



1. Start out by thinking deep and hard about what your short term and then your long term objectives are. What do you want to be doing in 6 months ideally, no limits. And then you know which paths to take to ger as close to that as possible. Forget the terms player Pimp ect, get your own vision of what you want in your life, then see what it matches to similarly ,if anything. If what is in The Kidds articles on the Pimp Network webpage seems to fit, follow the advice inthe articles and you will grow! Have you checked them out?


2. Planiing again (can you tell I just love planning!) I used to and still do go through situations in my head, even visualise them. What if I'm in shop X and a girl walks by smiling, what would be the best action? Checkout girl at supermarket just spoke to me but I blundered and dried up what could I have said. What to say next time your sister's friend asks how you are. Learn from each day and ecxperience and prepare for the next! Machiavelli said even in times of peace prepare for war. Likewise when not in the company of women, deliberate and plan. Knowing will give you more confidence along with practice.

Zenmack(Player_Supreme) gave good advice in that part where he said about talking for a min than leaving it a few times at first and so on. Although we differ on being proactive getting a phone number which I'm not down with. And remember it's not what you say but how you say it. Also the tone and the other physical communication is more important.


3. The problem of self confidece can be tackled with the above and also looking into yourself at how you view yourself and how you view these women. Starting with you, spend on yourself financially and timewise to make yourself feel like a king, invest. Your conficence will improve, you may get compliments even. Next, looking at women, I can tell you I don't get impressed by any woman very easily. Nobody's perfect. Through expereince I know what I want and don't want in a female and therefore I see only how much learning and teaching and leadership she needs when I come into contact.


It takes time to experience women and discover that their actions over time are really what will make them "fine" or not and everything else doesn't count, doesn't impress. Remember also, because this ****s some people's head up: one day a "fine model" hoe may think you're hot. The next day you're wondering what's going on because a less fine ***** is giving you no indication/Evidence. Remember everyone's taste is different. Don't let it **** with you. Some of your friends maay think a movie star or rapper is the **** and to you'll they'll be so-so.

Get Pimp by Iceberg Slim and read Kidds' articles if you want to get your feet wet.

P a r a d i s e www.infinitedreamspublishing.co.uk

 

[So pimp its scary]

Player, That post is awesome...

I've also read that self-confidence is just a matter of practice, and the knowledge that you can handle the situation. And the mind is unable to tell the difference between something that really happened and something that is visualized in great detail.

So the better you are at visualising the outcome, the better you handle yourself.

 

[So pimp its scary]

Player, That post is awesome...

I've also read that self-confidence is just a matter of practice, and the knowledge that you can handle the situation. And the mind is unable to tell the difference between something that really happened and something that is visualized in great detail.

So the better you are at visualising the outcome, the better you handle yourself when the actual situation arises.

 

[elvis aint dead yet]

The problem with soo many people on this site and in reality is that they are so desperate to get laid , AFC or DJ or whatever they want to call themselves.

I find it funny that people give advice on this site and then ask questions, all claiming to be these big DJs, yet, they do the same things as the hated AFC guys.

Stop wasting sooo much time trying to get laid and go out and have a life.

WHo cares if some chic rejects you and who cares if you get into her pants.

I understand if your still in high school and college, thats what most guys and girls want to do besides get wasted every weekend.

But i've seen too many guys in their mid to late twenties and beyond that are so desperate to get laid, it's really sad.

WHO CARES if You don't bang that hot chic, there's gonna be another chic walking around the next corner and the next one after that and on and on.

Stop being so FING desperate to get laid.

 

[xblitz44x]

Fvck these labels. They are silly. Screw the Dungeons and Dragons aspect of this game and learn how to be comfortable with yourself. Instead of learning how to deal with being afraid of women...be comfortable being REAL with yourself and who you are so that you're NOT afraid of women. It's a matter of growing up.

 

[So pimp its scary]

That I need advice now and then, is mostly to just try and get an unbiased opinion on something controversial...

When you become infatuated, it's difficult to think things clearly... so I will come, and show my perspective, and often people will say, 'you did this right, this needs improving, etc.'

I've always said, I'm not a master, but I do got game.

 

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I've explained this clearly in The Book of Shuma Gora:

Read the article entitled

'How to silence the Annoyhing inner AFC"