"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How to screen for STDs?

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There's something a bit disconcerting, I haven't seen anything on this
forum (or the DJ Bible for that matter :eek: ) about screening a chick for STDs.
I would think it would be a touchy subject, even a turnoff at any stage in the
game. Is it even possible without it being a seduction faux pas?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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if your concerned, and you should be, all you can do is protect yourself. wrap up. many STDS are asymptomatic, the person who has them, wont even know. if you ask 100 women how many have stds, 100 will reply...no, not me!
if you are in an LTR, you should be confident enough to say, ok, lets get tested.
 

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A trip to the clap clinic for a mutual check-up may not be the most brilliant choice for a first/early date!
 

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ScottMustaine said:
So before trying to do oral on my gf I should tell her we should get tested ?

I think that would mean instant " YOU THINK IM A SLUT TO CARRY ALL KINDS OF DISAESES ?!"
well if you dont, you risk Chlamydia, herpes, syphillis etc etc, in your mouth and throat, the choice is yours
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The health department where I live won't do herpes tests without sores,
as for chlamydia and syphilis, their both curable early on
if you get a pile of sores on your lips or junk, you should get tested

Anyone remember that indian guy from How high?
 

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ScottMustaine said:
So it's basically risk getting STD and have sex or risk remaining a virgin ?

I mean how you guys do the whole **** thing when picking up in clubs, you don't ask her for ' Hey dou you have certificate you don't have std before we go for 69? '
if you go down on a club sl ut after meeting her for only an hour or so, you are asking for it
 

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ScottMustaine said:
If I go down on a girl who's 2 years younger than me and had 3 boyfriends who were older than her from 3-6 years ? I mean she could've had some signs of it, last time she had sex was... a year ago or so.
she may only have had sex with one guy...that Guy maye have gone rawback with 100 women, who may have gone rawback with dozens of other guys, its sometimes said that when you sleep with someone, you also sleep with everyone they have ever slept with!
 

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ScottMustaine said:
So it's basically risk getting STD and have sex or risk remaining a virgin ?

I mean how you guys do the whole **** thing when picking up in clubs, you don't ask her for ' Hey dou you have certificate you don't have std before we go for 69? '
chicks dig guys who live dangerously
if you go down on a club sl ut after meeting her for only an hour or so, you are asking for it
he means you should get a decent idea of her sexual history before u bang her
if she really hasn't had sex in a year, she don't sound like a slvt so you should be relatively safe, still wrap it up tho unless you want kids and pay child support
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Just Fake Chow her! lol
 

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Prisoners, prostitutes, and IV drug users are the highest risk groups by far. Next would be the ghetto in general, which would have a lot of those three groups of people, as well as a lot of people with lower IQs who are less likely to understand that they have an STD and are spreading it.

There is something to be said for dating within social circles. If someone is in a relationship for long enough, that is a good sign. They at least would probably know if they have something. Maybe they do and were up front about it with the guy, which is the honesty you want to see.

I would be most worried about a girl you didn't know beforehand who seemed just a little too easy. If a woman acts like she knows she'll never see me again, that is a red flag. Also, in college, the sorority girls who get the reputation for sleeping around the most will almost always have HPV and herpes.
 

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I'd just use a condom until you both feel it's time to change that. When she asks suggest both of you get tested...
 

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There's not really a sure way to screen that doesn't kill the attraction.

'No, not tonight, not until I see some papers from your test earlier today'

First and foremost, avoid girls from questionable parts of town and social circles.

Second, visual check. If she looks like an IV drug user, you shouldn't be talking to her anyway. Don't go down on a girl you just met. It's a reward anyway.

And you can always ask, shortly prior to penetration, 'are you clean'.

The problem though, as was mentioned, is that certain STDs can lay dormant (some for a lifetime) without any symptoms, so she may not even know.

Last but not least, educate yourself on STDs beyond just the standard high school class. Wikipedia is good for this. For example, 70% of all HPV infections are gone in 1 year, 90% in 2 years.

So to answer your question, there isn't really a cookie cutter way of doing it. You have to take some risks if you want the rewards.
 

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A lot of girls don't even know they have an STD most of the time. Wrap it up, and play it safe. If she has a reputation for being a wh0re, uses drugs that involve needles, or a reputation for being dirty (not that you should believe every rumor you hear, but I'd rather be safe than sorry) than maybe you should sit that one out.

-Scars
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Healthy people don't get diseases. If you're eating at McDonald's and Subway every day you are not healthy. First comes the belly, then come the allergies, then come diseases.

I once had a girl confess she tested positive for Chlamydia.

I went and got tested and of course was negative ($40 test).

When a girl tells you they have something you can never hold it against them. You have to be happy that A) she was honest about it, B) it was curable and C) that you can trust she probably didn't have anything else.

And remember you might have given it to her but had no symptoms so get tested. This can make or break a relationship.

Know that the antibiotic treatments are often worse than the disease as they cause Candida and Yeast in the gut. Someone who does take antibiotics should be sure to take probiotics like Acidophilis Bifidus, Plain organic yogurt, Kefir and raw milk cheese.
 

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bigneil said:
Healthy people don't get diseases. If you're eating at McDonald's and Subway every day you are not healthy. First comes the belly, then come the allergies, then come diseases.
When you say things like this, it makes me happy to know that no one here listens to you anyway.
 

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True, the healthier you are, the more likely your body can fight it off. Keep in mind your immune system is fighting off thousands of strains of viruses and bacteria every day. Anyhow, there isn't really much you can do to protect yourself other than wrapping it. As long as your putting on a condom, this will fight off the bacterial infections. Also, and people may not know this, but nearly everyone has been exposed to HPV. If you had sex before, you've probably been exposed to it. Condoms don't protect you from it. It's just one of those things you have to live with (there's also no way to test for it). For a guy, there are almost always no symptoms. Think if it like smallpox or shingles and move on.

So there is really nothing we can do but hope for the best and keep getting tested. Really that is we can do. It's that or keep jerking off.
 
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