Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How to save myself from a girl I've "hurt"

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Alright. It's been a while since I've been on here.

There's a girl, year younger than me (I'm going into Grade 12) and we've gone on a date. Then, we never talked. I tried, of course, but she wouldn't return my calls, and would not acknowledge me in the hallways at school. So I gave up on her. And then later on, I spark a conversation one day on MSN. Then she starts confessing that she's mad about me and is so sorry for everything she's done. I said that I would love to "try it again".

And then I meet a girl at a film workshop...and wow. Two years younger, but absolutely amazing. I am completely confident around her. I'm throwing neg hits, her and I are cracking jokes...eventually she starts talking about sexual positions and stuff like that. Very flirtacious and very calm and cool. I actually ended up sneaking off with my buddy to her hotel room to watch Showcase porn with her and her friend. Nothing happened. We just laughed and had fun.

She gave me my number when she came into the store I work at. I called her a few days later and said we should hang out (don't know if she took it as hanging out, or a date) but I never did call her back; I became busy every day working for my dad, and then I left for a personal four week vacation in Europe to visit my grandparents and random aunts and uncles. (I'm still there at the moment).

Now I haven't been talking to a lot of girls here (and I'm with my grandparents all the time, and I'm here for the sights, not the girls...) but I really want to ask this film workshop girl out. Problem is, I already have a date planned with the first girl. And I'm afraid she might be the vengeful type if she finds out I left her for a younger girl.

Her loss, right? But I don't want a vengeful girl after me...tips?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Go for both. If you are really worried about getting a crazy b!tch, keep the film workshop girl on the DL.
 

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That's where the "@$$hole" part comes into play.
I think that would be a worse thing to do than just telling her
"I um...I don't like you very much."
But yeah, I want to keep my options open. I'm calling the Workshop Girl as soon as I get back. And I'm asking her out. None of this "hanging out" bull.
 
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