how to saty out of the friends zone?

[GaryUranga]

I need all the info you can give me, theres this girl Im friends with but nothing can happen till in like a couple of years so Id like to keep her there as an option, still being friends but not JUST friends

 

[MrGold]

Don't be a nice, complimenting good guy. Be ****y, be funny. Let her know that your not the 'the guy that waits on her' or 'the guy thats gonna be there for her all the time'. Keep limited contact with her, dont show her alot of attention. Coupla years is a long time to keep that up!

 

[Snow Plowman]

Reason guys get in the friend zone is because they don't escalate and take to long to start escalation.

Start kinoing from when you first meet a chick and don't stop the escalation. Many guys do all this fancy gaming sh!t but don't escalate and they wonder why they don't get no chicks.

Escalating shows confidence because afcs can't escalate.

 

[Stuntmann]

How to keep that girl you mentioned from being friend? Don't see her for these couple of years, don't be interested in her.


You want her to be your lover in couple of years. For that there must be that lover's frame between you two. You will develop something else now if you don't go for it. Once frame is developed, there is nothing you can do to change it.

On the other hand if you have no frame with this girl, then you can start fresh with her. Thus don't see her for couple of years. (until she grows up?)

 

[Maxtro]

I need all the info you can give me, theres this girl Im friends with but nothing can happen till in like a couple of years so Id like to keep her there as an option, still being friends but not JUST friends

Hmm, nothing can happen till a couple of years? Is she sixteen or something?

As for the friends zone thing that is an issue that is plaguing my life, which I am currently struggling with.

 

[DJVladdy]

Who cares if shes 16 - the OP is only 20. 4 year difference wooow. Anything 16+ is fair game.

 

[Maxtro]

Where I'm from it's illegal to have sex with a girl if she is under 18, if the guy is 18+.

That was my guess to why nothing can happen in two years.

 

[GaryUranga]

umm its complicated, I had a thing with this girl it was liek a long distance relationship kinda thing, it ended liek 6 months+ ago, in a couple of years Im moving up (not because of her) and it wont be long distance anymore, shes a good friend though, so Im trying to keep the balance between friendship and a possible relationship, shes 18 btw, and I was 19 and she was 17 and the last thing that came to my mind was her being "underage"

we have that "lovers" background I just want the maximoun amount of contact still without touching the friends zone, Im not obsessed or feeling needy to talk to her or anything, but I completly kinda stopped talkign to her like 5 months ago cause I was freaking out about just turning into a friend, however I dont think COMPLETLY stopping the talk is the solution, I wanna know where the balance is if we can just be "normal"

 

[lighthouse1956]

I have a friend that ljbf me, and we ARE very close friends, but the next time the topic of a relationship comes up, I have the question ready:

"You tell me you're afraid, and you don't want to make a mistake again (bad past relationships), but don't you think I am worth taking a chance on"

 

[abcd_z]

I would say to just let her go. There are plenty of other attractive women where you live, so don't worry so much about somebody in another state. Chances are good she'll find someone else while you're gone. That's a good thing. It's healthy and it's natural. You need to do the same.

Pining over someone for a matter of years? That's what I'd call unhealthy.

Oh, and Lighthouse? Ew. Just, ew. Your post reeks of neediness. VERY unattractive. The more you need something, the less power you have. Women are attracted to men who don't give away their power. Let her go, and go sarge other women.