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how to respond when she asks you 'what is your profession?'

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one of the recent tips on this site suggested that this sort of question about your profession quite obviously is for her to figure out how much money you make and whether you're a 'provider' or a 'lover' in her eyes.

what would be the best response to 'what is your profession?'

bear in mind this is before i've met this chick off facebook. on a date i assume there would be a different answer to give.

i was thinking along the lines of 'wouldn't you like to know ;)' but the question will come up on the date next week too.. so do i answer with something stupid and out there like snake charmer or crocodile hunter something?

what would be the best answer for this sort of question, and also what if she keeps pressing you for the answer or says something like 'why wont you tell me what u do, are u embarrassed by your job?'

it seems like avoiding the question makes her think u don't earn enough money in her eyes or whatnot. how do you turn into that 'lover' person in her eyes rather than a 'provider'?
 

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Give her some obviously made up answer like "ass model" then turn around and show her why. or "stripper for senior citizens". Heck tell her you just sit around all day making sure nobody steals your tv. Steer clear of answering rapport questions until you know that she is attracted to you.
 

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A guy I know, used to work as a sanitation inspector, so when he used to tell people what he worked as they would call him the "Sanny manny", now he just says that he "Fires dogs into space". When he says it though, people believed him, it leads to some pretty wacky conversations.
 
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You are an A$$ Model. When she watches her favorite movie and sees the actors a$$, that's you! It's a difficult job, but it pays the bills.
 

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I usually respond, "How much do you weigh?"
 

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Gangster Of Love said:
I usually respond, "How much do you weigh?"
hahaha.. that's very good. but i can't say that yet cos i'm meeting her off facebook. there's obviously a response now and for one when she asks me again next week when we meet.

but say i do say that to her when we meet. she'll look bemused and may think im quite rude, so it's like u have to elaborate that her asking me my profession is none of her business..

but won't that seem as if i'm offended her asking/she'll read into the fact that i might be hiding something.. it could well be that i'm very successful or just a bum but either way she'll wonder why i'm not giving her a straight answer but she'll assume it must be something not well paid?

if i say what u say it could lead to an argument but also an elaboration of why i should or should not answer it.

if i say that weight question.. she might get offended.. how do u get out of this convo or with a strong follow up?
 

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What I usually do is let her guess about it.
Do this very often, for every question that she asks just let her guess.
It's cool and it's playful and it's sort of DHV.
DO NOT EVER ANSWER :D:p
 

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macking said:
What I usually do is let her guess about it.
Do this very often, for every question that she asks just let her guess.
It's cool and it's playful and it's sort of DHV.
DO NOT EVER ANSWER :D:p
The next level of DJ ability would be to smile at her and say:

"Yeah I'm single."

She will go "Whaaa? That's not what I asked!!"

You will laugh at her for getting all afronted and then say:

"You're quite cute when you're confused."

This will confuse her no end because she will be like in her head "Wait, he wasnt listening to me, that means he's not interested in me, WANT WANT WANT, wait did he just call me cute?"
 

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Noob said:
"i dont work im homeless - do you have any change?"
Haha, I've used something similar to this one. Works.
 

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Gangster Of Love said:
I usually respond, "How much do you weigh?"
how do you follow it up? and what is is usually her response?

i understand and believe what u say about inner game, but at the end of the day her putting these intrusive questions across at u, u still have to get out of it somehow.
 

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'what is your profession?'

I clean chimney...
I work at the zoo
I clean fish tank during the day and I strip at night
 

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drift king said:
how do you follow it up? and what is is usually her response?

i understand and believe what u say about inner game, but at the end of the day her putting these intrusive questions across at u, u still have to get out of it somehow.
At the end of the day we both find she is the one qualifying herself to me. Their "what do you do for a living?" question is canned, standard, they don't have to think about it. When I throw them my question, it totally pulls the rug under them, kinda like a flash knockdown in a boxing fight. She's too busy recovering from the surprise, by the time she's up on her feet, she's trying to clear her head and becomes self-conscious about her weight, because really, all women are.

Usually they laugh, and get it. In that case, I can acknowledge they have a sense of humor and if they keep up the good work, they might have a good chance at hooking up with me, etc.

Usually I get a, "OH, you didn't" kinda look, some of them will punch me lightly, some just give me a nervous laugh, etc., either way, it is her who's on the spot, and even if I answer their question, she already got her balls busted for beig a dork and predictable.

So a standard question, that would deal a boring answer and nothing more, has turned into a sex-tension banter that I now have the choice to take anywhere I want.

You seem to be asking a lot of "Technique" Based questions, which is usually a sign that you need to get to work on your Inner Game stuff, PRONTO. ASAP.
 

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When someone asks you that just raise your weapon repeatedly and scream how ooh! how ooh!! how ooh!!!

Then say...

"See old friend, I brought my soldiers than you did". :p
 

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Vlad the Impaler said:
You are an A$$ Model. When she watches her favorite movie and sees the actors a$$, that's you! It's a difficult job, but it pays the bills.
Al Pacinos butt.
 

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KontrollerX said:
When someone asks you that just raise your weapon repeatedly and scream how ooh! how ooh!! how ooh!!!

Then say...

"See old friend, I brought my soldiers than you did". :p

He beat me to it.
 

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Always answer with "Finance" if she presses more "its something you wouldn't understand, a whole bunch of numbers"

Or another one that I've been meaning to try is take your job you currently have and word it in a way that sounds much more important than what it actually is. For example I am a Customer Service Representative for a repossession company. Pretty bland job description. Reworded however I "facilitate the recovery of defaulted assests for financial institutions". Either that or I'm a goat wrangler.
 

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Sometimes I tell them, " I'm Batman." Usually gets a pretty good laugh. LOL...
 

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Sometimes I tell them, " I'm Batman." Usually gets a pretty good laugh. LOL...
Lol I did that with a fvck buddy of mine. I made her Bat woman!

Nights when I was busy and didn't wanna hang out with her. I told her I was out saving the world so, Batman will talk you later. Had a little role playing with her... :cool:
 

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Gangster Of Love said:
At the end of the day we both find she is the one qualifying herself to me. Their "what do you do for a living?" question is canned, standard, they don't have to think about it. When I throw them my question, it totally pulls the rug under them, kinda like a flash knockdown in a boxing fight. She's too busy recovering from the surprise, by the time she's up on her feet, she's trying to clear her head and becomes self-conscious about her weight, because really, all women are.

Usually they laugh, and get it. In that case, I can acknowledge they have a sense of humor and if they keep up the good work, they might have a good chance at hooking up with me, etc.

Usually I get a, "OH, you didn't" kinda look, some of them will punch me lightly, some just give me a nervous laugh, etc., either way, it is her who's on the spot, and even if I answer their question, she already got her balls busted for beig a dork and predictable.

So a standard question, that would deal a boring answer and nothing more, has turned into a sex-tension banter that I now have the choice to take anywhere I want.

You seem to be asking a lot of "Technique" Based questions, which is usually a sign that you need to get to work on your Inner Game stuff, PRONTO. ASAP.
the thing is asking 'how much do you weigh?' is a rude question and you would assume she'd understand not to go there with the profession question.. but she could easily be offended by your question assuming your profession is a valid question to ask.. and if i respond in somewhat wrong tone she may find that i'm offended she asked me..

but forgetting all that.. what if she keeps pressing you for an answer or asks you 'why won't you tell me what you do.. is it that bad? why are you so evasive?'
 

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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

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