DatDude1435
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Got this one last week, and didn't have a good response. Any ideas?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
How to respond to "you only pretend to care about me" SH@T Test?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
PrettyBoyAJ
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TheException
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"Ya but I pretend pretty good...Ive been practicing since I was 4."
Maximus Rex
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Really?
Give a good hearty "Batman," laugh, http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_kuvckhEAHg1qzgcpyo1_500.jpg call her a foolish mortal, kiss her on the forehead and proceed as normal. Everything doesn't require an answer, this instance is one of those times.
Give a good hearty "Batman," laugh, http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_kuvckhEAHg1qzgcpyo1_500.jpg call her a foolish mortal, kiss her on the forehead and proceed as normal. Everything doesn't require an answer, this instance is one of those times.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
PlayHer Man
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The only possible "wrong response" is any type of submission or defensiveness on your part. She wants you to get defensive because that would mean you're insecure.
My response would depend on my mood and my overall opinion of her. I'd probably say something like: "Yeah? That's what you believe? Interesting."
Generally women do things like this when they believe they lack leverage in the relationship. Its a sign the relationship is (in her mind) mostly on YOUR TERMS (as is should be
). Usually they do it at a time when they believe you're unprepared (have weak frame).
If you don't want to have an argument or fight.. don't defend yourself or tell her she is wrong. Just let her ramble. Relax and watch the show, but don't participate in this childishness.
My response would depend on my mood and my overall opinion of her. I'd probably say something like: "Yeah? That's what you believe? Interesting."
Generally women do things like this when they believe they lack leverage in the relationship. Its a sign the relationship is (in her mind) mostly on YOUR TERMS (as is should be
). Usually they do it at a time when they believe you're unprepared (have weak frame). If you don't want to have an argument or fight.. don't defend yourself or tell her she is wrong. Just let her ramble. Relax and watch the show, but don't participate in this childishness.
As Playher man says, the most important thing here is not to get defensive.
I would suggest next time you get hit with a **** test that accuses you of being a certain way, you ask her "what do you mean?". This works in many situations, not just with girls. It shows that you're interested in what they have to say. This will also help you see if it was a real concern she has or just a **** test.
If after asking her this you can tell that it is a real **** test you should respond with something along the lines of what TheException said, or anything else that makes fun of her comment.
I would suggest next time you get hit with a **** test that accuses you of being a certain way, you ask her "what do you mean?". This works in many situations, not just with girls. It shows that you're interested in what they have to say. This will also help you see if it was a real concern she has or just a **** test.
If after asking her this you can tell that it is a real **** test you should respond with something along the lines of what TheException said, or anything else that makes fun of her comment.
usernamedox11
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I never understood you guys being obsessed with "shyt tests." Whenever a girl would ask me something ridiculous, I'd just tell her to stop nagging like a baby. It's always been my natural reaction, even when I was a teen. Never would think twice about it.
Response is "OK".DatDude1435 said:
Anything defensive or rational will cause you more issues. You got to be focused on what you want to do and she's trying to distract you with some emotional bs. Don't get sucked in or caught up. Focus, focus, focus.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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And then unless she is severely whipped she dumps you but hey at least you went out in style